I’m breaking :’(

It’s just been one too many sleepless nights :’( I’m a single mum with very little help :’( I live with my parents so its it’s sometimes really tough when they put extreme pressure on me with her. My health visitor and every other adult human in my life knows I’m non stop with her ! I love her so much and it’s so worth it but I have an injured hip, waiting for surgery. I’m in agony :’( Another night and another snark comment. No matter what I do, they think they can do it better and faster. They are both mostly unable to bother to help out anyway. I want to smash my skull against a wall so much I’m in so much mental and physical pain and I have NO ONE to talk to. I need help and I can’t even find a way to get it :’(

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I’m so so sorry you’re going through this - can’t imagine how hard it is for you. Remember you’ve almost got to a whole year !! You just need to find the strength to cut out all this noise and focus on you & your bubba.. I wish mums in your situation could get some respite asap.. I can only pray and wish you all the strength ! You are doing GREAT !!

Hello lovely. I’ve been there, promise you! I changed nothing and then one day she just started doing longer stretches. There’s a lot of highly recommended sleep consultants, I know @Emily has recommended one to me previously who she highly rates and sounds amazing. I’m hoping she sees this so can send you a link! I’m not sure of your routine, what comforters they have etc but if you drop that, we may be able to help? I’m not an expert and we still have wakes but it’s hard when it feels relentless. X

@Amy absolutely. If a sleep coach is something you can invest in, I can absolutely talk you through it and the pros and cons of using one and recommend ours! There was no cry it out involved and the process was SO supportive. Sending love xx

It does get better lovely hang in there 🤍 firstly, ignore the comments!! I get rude remarks from relatives sometimes about how I dress baby (sometimes warm in the house so no vest under baby grow), but I now completely ignore the comments and walk away. We went through a really hard phase with our baby, waking 3-4 times a night sometimes taking an hour to get him back to sleep. I was ALWAYS against sleep training, but it has changed ours and our baby’s life. We did the Ferber method using the blissful sleep coach’s (you can find her on insta) tips (she does ferber method) but never let baby cry continuously for more than 3-5 minutes. We’d then go in, lay him down, pat him, give his dummy etc. then start again. It was difficult but only for the first two-three naps. He now sleeps through and sleeps longer than he used to which means he’s getting the rest he needs and no longer waking and crying. It’s not for everyone but it really did help us. Feel free to message me! Xx

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