How much are you expected to do for your SCs?
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I’ve been here before. Almost found myself doing way more than what the father would be doing and that’s their bio child. It shouldn’t be on you to do all that. If anything, there shouldn’t be any expectation on you. It should be on your partner and you come in to help them where you choose to or agree on. There’s been situations where you do so much for SCs and get no recognition or sometimes even blamed when problems arise
You’re doing too much and yes I’d say been taken advantage of! SS is not your son and as such it’s nice of you do pick him up occasionally but in general not your responsibility We don’t live close enough to have SD in the school week but honestly even if we did I wouldn’t be doing all the school runs on dads rime Unless the cost for wrap around care was too much for us
That sounds like you are doing a lot and I am curious why BM is not doing any school runs or Dad? We split ours between Dad and I, mostly because we can’t afford to do wrap around care five days a week (Dad does it on days we do the wrap around care) We are due another baby and I have shared that I will need to pull back from the school runs as we have to drive to her school and I’m not getting the baby in and out of the car eight times a day to do it.
Pressed wrong I do Monday and Friday for step kids as that's the pickup/drop off point as Sundays was just a hassle
@Samantha sorry I realise I worded it terribly 😂 I meant I do all the drop offs when he is at our house as his dad can’t because of work. So I do school run 3 days a week every week his mum does the other 2 when he’s at her house. She seems to think it’s my duty to do it rather than arranging days with dad that he can actually do - so annoying !
I do all of the school runs while he’s with us 🙈 my fiancé works hard though so I feel it’s the least I could do for him x
@Anonn I work full time aswell so it just feels like I have so much on my plate 🥲
I would be asking Dad to say to mum that the arrangement isn’t working as he can’t do the school run on those days and look to change them so you can reduce what you have to do
Your friend is right, you're doing way too much when it's not your responsibility, and trust me they will never appreciate you for it but only expect you to do more or see you as a bad person when you decide to do less. The best thing to do for a sc is to step back and do nothing.