Vagina different since birth

I had a second degree tear through my perineum but while I’ve been stitched ‘back together’ it just doesn’t look the same down there. My perineum looks like it’s reduced in length by about half, and I can see so much more of the tissue beneath my vagina opening than I did before. I’m just gutted. Is there anyone else that has found that they look different down there? I also have a fairly prominent scar which is raised which I can deal with, but I think the combination of changes together has made me feel pretty low. It’s only the second time I’ve dared look and I’m 11 weeks postpartum. I’ve had it looked at a couple of times in the 11 weeks and have been advised that it has heeled well, but looking at it myself at this point, I know that it is so different. I suppose I’m just wondering if I’m the only one x

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I had a third degree tear and I’m 10 weeks postpartum and I feel like it looks really different from what it did before. Myself and my partner are finding it difficult to be intimate with each other as it looks different and tmi but it just doesn’t feel right. I’ve been told that it’s fully healed but it’s painful when trying to be intimate with my partner x

I'll be honest I'm 10 weeks and I still haven't looked! I would rather just not know x

I had a 2nd degree tear too and am almost 10 weeks PP. I feel the exact same! I went to the GP this week because I still feel like it’s not healed properly because of the fleshy type skin/wound, like you said. The GP said he will refer me but I feel like it’s going to take ages and I’m so nervous about having sex again! Who did you get yours checked by?

Mine was checked by a perineal specialist midwife, who I was referred to. She was honestly amazing and said the scar was healing well but when I’ve since looked it’s not necessarily the scar which is the problem, it’s the opening above it 😭 I saw a pelvic floor physio yesterday who advised to do perineal massage to help with any ‘sticky’ scar tissue but couldn’t really say anything about how different I now looked. I even showed her a pic of what my perineum looked like before. She advised massage every other day for six weeks now that I’m 12 weeks pp but honestly the trauma I just don’t know if I can 😭😭😭 sorry to hear you’re all going through similar things xxx

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