Is it postpartum depression or is my life crazy?
I have 3 daughters ages 7,6,4 and I just had my son 2 weeks ago. My 6 yr old has been having behavior issues in school consistently since 1st grade started. She yells and screams at her teachers she even hits them. She elops from the classroom and her favorite thing to say is "everyone hates me, nobody likes me" idk where she got it from. Last year she has having these issues but we found out she has chronic sleep apnea so we had her tonsils and adenoids removed. She was able to finish off the school year great. Now 1st grade it's gotten so much worse to the point doctor feels it's not the sleep apnea anymore she said she's seeing signs of ADHD and high functioning autism so we're in the process of her being evaluated. She's also under evaluation at school for a behavioral IEP but we don't get those results until Tuesday. I am also speaking with the school district because I don't know what to do anymore, the principal doesn't know what to do anymore either. Now the district is involved. They are telling me to keep her in school but why? She's hurting herself and others she's dangerous at school. I am getting phone calls from the school twice a day I am picking her up from school 2 to 3 times out the week. She got suspended from school last Monday for a day. Im taking her to therapy outside of the school Friday because she can't even tolerate staying in the school long enough to talk to the school counselor. I feel like I'm doing everything I possibly can but nothing is working I just want to run away. I want to take my two week old and leave. The principal called me again today and I literally had a quick thought of ending my life. My other two kids want my attention but I'm constantly parenting and I'm involved with my 6 yr old. I'm losing my shit with her. But I feel so bad for her something is clearly wrong with her mentally we just don't know what it is. My husband is supportive but sometimes I take my frustration out on him because I want him to do more. I feel like I have so much on my plate and all I want to do is enjoy time with my newborn baby 😓 I'm constantly overwhelmed I'm walking on eggshells with my daughter I had a thought yesterday of giving her away to people who can handle her she's like dealing with 3 kids in one. I'm breaking down more now postpartum then when I was pregnant. I don't know what to do I'm losing my mind
There is a saying, "You are only as happy as your unhappiest child." Your girl is struggling right now, and it completely makes sense you are struggling too. Your baby is going to be ok because you are going to try every strategy, every intervention, every school accommodation, and see every doctor and therapist until you find what works for her. Nothing about what she's going through makes her any less of the wonderful girl she is and has been. If dealing with the school is causing you both so much stress, maybe it's a good time to pause school for a minute and reevaluate. Traditional school might not be the right path for her right now. Maybe you take a week off and see how she does at home. Does she need a midday nap? Does she need a different meal schedule? Does she love to read with you, and can she tolerate practicing some writing and math? Would she be excited to help care for her little sibling and make meals for the family? I really feel for you, but I know your future is bright. 🌻❤️