If your partner presented you with a prenup or postnatal agreement, would you sign

What's a marriage with no trust, that being said my husband presented me with a post nup because of a "potential" lucrative income( it never came to be). I told him clearly you don't trust me and I'm not happy about signing it as I've never used him for financial gain.....he had an epiphany and changed his mind.😒

If he had a lot of money or property etc before getting with me, then absolutely protect that and I would be absolutely fine with that. While he was in a better position than me when we got together, we've both basically started from scratch together so imo anything we get/earn now, is shared (apart from his families gift for our house deposit, that is his/his families but I wouldn't be funny about that anyway).

Where I got married you can chose what kind of marriage and the standard one is that if you divorce everything you owned before you got married is yours and everything you buy after marriage gets split. So I guess that is some kind of prenup but that is the standard here and I wouldn’t have signed another prenup. Got married to be together until we die lol. No idea what a postnatal agreement is?

I think there's nothing wrong with legally protecting yourself, especially if one person is coming in to the marriage with more assets or cash than the other. Neither of us had anything which wasn't already shared so we didn't need one. But when we bought our first place together (four years before we got married) he put in more deposit than I did and I had no issues at all with that being ringfenced if we split up so that was fine. I've never heard of a postnatal agreement though. What the hell is that?

@Caroline same thing as a prenup but after you’re legally married. It can be a day after or 24 years later. But it’s just meaning “after marriage”. @Kathryn Also..I’m a dummy. I spelled it incorrectly that’s why yall have no idea what I’m talking about. Sorry that’s my bad 🥴

I would likely sign a prenup and if we had anything before hand I'd want one. But I would probably not sign a postnup unless there was a really good reason as that seems kind of like omitting the truth about how they feel and I wouldn't like that i married that. And anything accured during marriage is both of our not just his I will also add that a prenup isn't to say they don't trust you or don't think you'll last. It's to protect yourself in case that you dont. Especially because a lot of divorces turn nasty. And 40-50% of marriages end in divorce so it's just a precaution

No definitely not a post & a pre would probably depend on what the agreement consists of exactly but Likely not

Ok, you've said 'postnatal' which sounded like it's something that kicks in after you've had a baby. That felt very wrong to me!

It’s postnuptial

I would refuse to sign one if we both came into the marriage with relatively similar financial statuses. Anything you build together including eachothers career success is shared after that, especially as women who spend time giving birth raising kids etc I’m sacrificing my career so if we split I’m entitled to some hefty alimony and child support 😂 now people who meet on very different levels or enter into a marriage with their own properties and assets already I kinda get why someone would propose a prenup. I personally wouldnt sign a postnup or prenup with my husband but he’d never ask me to even though he makes quite a lot more than me now

@Donna yes. I previously acknowledged my incorrect spelling a comments above

@incognito understood my response followed Caroline’s . I didn’t read any of the comments above mine in its entirety other than most of what Kylie wrote or typed in 💕💕

When we got engaged my husband owned a house that he’d already been paying the mortgage on for over 10 years before we met. I offered to sign a prenup to protect the assets he came into the relationship with. I would probably want that if the tables were turned. It would have just protected the value he had in the house before we met not any value that accrued after. In the end he didn’t feel it was necessary and we’ve since sold that house and bought another one together anyways

Reading these comments, I’m asking myself, Am I making a mistake by helping my boyfriend accomplish his goals (using my car, splitting bills, and dealing with emotional neglect because he’s in “grind mode” versus just focusing on me. We’ve have conversation about prenup before and I expressed my concern about me basically helping him accomplish goal of becoming a trader just to turn around and sign a prenup like I’m a gold digger. He knows I don’t need his money as I had my career job prior to being pregnant. (Recently quit for job of less demand) but I’m so torn. I know it’s trust but how do I protect myself? He makes me feel like I’m being selfish when he’s in a winning position. Also, he has a son already, that he has split custody of and lives with us biweekly. It’s a lot smh