Does this make any sense

Is he open to a vasectomy ?

i didn’t mean to choose the first option 😫 but being on BC can be a disaster for some women, and if u need to get off, then get off of it before it starts impacting your life fr. i think u may have to refuse unless he wears protection, or he can get himself fixed because it’s not fair you have to go thru pregnancy, postpartum, and now more hormonal changes and he gets to stay his cool lil ole self, and can’t sacrifice some rubber 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Brittany kindaaaa but we just moved to Texas and we don’t have insurance yet so he doesn’t want to pay the full price which is about 500-900 when we live paycheck to paycheck right now

@cynthia thank you girl!! I was thinking about refusing him too until he agrees too

This is a stupid solution on his behalf. Y’all will be welcoming a child in 2025 with actions like this. You did your part. You got on birth control and stay on that shit. Then gave birth to 2 humans. If you don’t want to get on birth control—don’t. He needs to do his part and contribute to family planning like you have. he needs to wear protection or get a vasectomy. I think condoms are wonderful but…one cold and rainy night happens. You’re cuddling and kissing and….now you had sex. Everyone thinks their pull out game is strong but it’s not. It’s never. people often times don’t stop and think “I need a condom”. They go go go. And now it’s “Pull and mother fucking pray” and purchase plan B (expensive) and the side effects are not fun. Shit your body has to experience. He needs to do his part. Take charge and find a reliable and effective solution to family planning where it’s not affecting ur body.

Look into tracking your cycles you can have sex comfortably on the days you aren’t fertile. It takes some time to learn but i think it’s worth knowing you can have sex on certain days without the worry to get pregnant or having to use protection. Otherwise you just avoid sex or use protection on the days you are fertile. Which is 7-10 days out of the month. I also understand this isn’t for everyone, but I thought I’d mention it as an option.

he should just get a vasectomy and you should use protection until then.

He should use protection, it affects nothing. you did your part and took BC but it is badly affecting you so you have stopped. he can do his part by simply wearing a bit of rubber and he isn’t willing to?? i would be saying u can wear protection or we can not have sex ? simple. if u really don’t want a baby you need some sort of contraception and this is the easiest form as it does effect anything for either of you xxx

Listen, I would be telling my fiancé that he's not touching me if he doesn't wear a condom and is going to act like a selfish child. If I told him I didn't want to risk it he would respect that, even though he isn't a huge fan of condoms. Also, as someone else mentioned you can track your cycle. It does take time to learn but it's very empowering whether you're trying to have a baby or avoid pregnancy. Regardless of what you do and don't do to contribute to family planning, don't have sex with him if that's his attitude. It's manipulative, risky, and irresponsible behavior and you will end up pregnant over and over again.

Use Natural Cycles - take your temp daily and it will tell you when you’re ovulating and when to avoid sex unless using protection etc. super popular way of non hormonal birth control

@Torie but also not the most accurate as cycles are notorious for changing month to month and if they are so certain they do not want a baby then this wouldn’t be the safest way to prevent that xx

I hate birth control too. I don’t like how it affects the my periods. I told my husband after this pregnancy and the baby is born I want to either tie my tubes or have him get a a vasectomy. I am not going back onto birth control. Your husband should wear protection or atleast be willing to pull out. If he won’t do those things say no to sex.

Use protection or get tubes tied/removed or vasectomy cause pulling out is definitely not gonna work

Tell him to get snipped

I used FAM but you’ll still have to either abstain, do other things, or use protection for about a week a month. I’ll never go on BC again.

Vasectomy. They're reversible if you change your mind down the road.

@Catherine they’re not completely reversible, there’s only about a 50% success rate at reversing and it gets harder the longer it’s been

He could also get a vasectomy.