How do I get over these feelings?

I have been pregnant twice, both times my mil treated me badly. She caused so much stress during my pregnancies that I remember on the drive from work I used to pull up on the side and scream and cry in the car. after I had my babies again she treated me bad. I had promised myself the second time I’m not gonna let her bother me, but she and the rest of the family manipulated my husband thus it affected me. Not only this, but they had too many family dramas in the family and I ended up being dragged in and stressed ( including ones with her kids and daughter in law). Fast forward to now, her other daughter in law is pregnant, and so far she’s been treating her nicely. I’m happy for my sil, but involuntarily I feel annoyed that I had to go through this. I’m partly annoyed at myself for letting this happen but at the time I was young and I just couldn’t fight back. How do I get over it?

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I’m so sorry this has happened. Seek some counseling and work through that trauma. They will also help you to set clear boundaries with MIL so she can’t do this again.

I'm sorry you had to experience that. I think it really comes down to changing your mindset and working on yourself. If you allow your past experience to keep eating you, then you will eventually drown. You must learn to move past and focus on yourself. Sometimes I myself have a habit of dwelling on the past or paying too much attention to what someone said...but I learned that I can't keep overthinking about every single thing. Pretend your past experience with your MIL is a balloon and just release that balloon into the sky and let it go. Focus on your children, husband, friends....find a hobby and enjoy time with yourself...don't let a middle aged lady bring down your mood!

@Preeti thank you for your message. It’s just that suddenly some things trigger it, like the way she is towards my sil during her pregnancy. Then I just think how unfair it is.

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