Struggling

So am 29weeks and day 4days! I struggle mental health anyway but the past few days feels worse then ever say tonight am doing evening course and got my self so worked up that i havent gone letting people down which then makes me feel worse! I had pains yesterday as got my self worked up that ended up in hospital as i was sure something wrong! Turns out nothing so then feel wasted hospital time 😓 i struggle going out the house as it is but past few days have been lower then ever 😓 just worried its going effect the baby and me crying all the time cant help her, trying stay calm and normal isnt helpping right now feel so low! Anybody else had this?

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Hi I’ve been crying every day too. It’s come over all of a sudden as well. I’m also dealing with some work / business related stuff that is exacerbating everything but I’m struggling to sleep…etc. I think it’s all to do with getting towards the end and just feeling a bit clumsy and useless. People around you should understand though. If they don’t, just concentrate on you. Try and sleep even if it’s to stop feeling like crap for a few hours. Order some uber eats. You’re not alone. I’m going through it too. It’s not nice. Hang in there, we’re almost done x

Thankyou so much! I hope your ok? I didnt think the end would be this draining! 😂😓 xx

Hey lovely, sorry you’re feeling this way! Pregnancy messes with your hormones so much! I’m 29weeks with my second, and I was having crazy bouts of anxiety which lead to panic attacks and it was wreaking havoc on my mental health and that was affecting me physically. I couldn’t eat or sleep all while managing/trying to set routines with first! Honestly it felt like hell but I think iv gotten through the thick of it but I still get bouts of anxiety now and then but it’s not as bad (touch wood)! I also had a day at the hospital because I hadn’t slept for 3days straight and if I did close my eyes for a minute I’d wake up sweating, feeling anxious and scared for my life.. Mine was just more worry about how I’m gonna manage two under two and that this baby might be born premature because my first was a preemie which led to me having a traumatic birth. Drs think I may have some form of ptsd because of that causing the anxiety iv been having.. It’s difficult but we’re almost there!

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