Some advice/words of encouragement or even experience would be great😬

So I’m pretty sure I’m pregnant, I have a nearly one year old (she’ll be one in a couple weeks) so if I am they would be about 1.5 years apart. We weren’t planning this and every conversation I’ve had with my partner is that we’d wait until she was about 3. I don’t think I could terminate the pregnancy as I now look at it differently as I’ve seen our daughter grow. Financially we would be a little worse off obviously but there wouldn’t be a major difference. I tested a couple days ago with cheap Tesco tests and they were negative but I’ve been getting awful headaches, nausea, cramps, I actually vomitted a few days ago and was late on my period by 2 weeks but then came on for 3 days. Going to test again in a few days but I’m so worried I don’t even know what to think. Yes I want a second baby more than anything but I really wanted to wait a little longer. Anyone been in a similar situation with a similar age gap?

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I feel this- my kiddos will be 1.5 years apart- We thought we wanted to have kiddos closer together, but now I’m so nervous my boy won’t like his baby sister. Financially speaking, we’re okay. I had a little friends get together/out to eat/sprinkle that a friend of mine was kind enough to put together for me(literally we all 5 of us just sat around the table eating and gabbing together and there were a couple diapers and such given- exactly the low key kinda thing I had wanted lol). Facebook marketplace and we have a blessing of a fabulous kids resale shop in our state (Idaho) have helped keep us afloat, and maaaaany have given me advice that my boy will absolutely love my girly. They will be best of friends, and possibly enemies too, but it will be more so that they love eachother because of the closer age gap. I’m prayin’ so!
But yeah, I honestly volley back n forth between so excited and super nervous/terrified.
They say though that the harder transitions are 1-2 kiddos, and 3-4.

So I’m just preparing for the fact that things will be hard for a bit, but the more we just kind of go with it, the possibly, more manageable it will be. We just gotta get there lol
Like anything in life, this too will ebb and flow, but I’m trying to continue to choose to take hold of alll the wonderful goodness that this is going to bring!🩷
I hope this helped a little😅
Idk how much it did, but I truly hope for a really wonderful outcome for you guys!💕

My kids are 19 months apart and I wouldn’t have it any other way! It’s intense and exhausting but seeing their bond and them play together is priceless.

My girls are 15 months apart and definitely unplanned 😂 but honestly although it's hard at times their relationship is just amazing I wouldn't change it for the world xx

I had a 14 month old when my twins where born. They were born about 2 months earlier too. Twins are now 6 month and my toddler will be 2 in February. This stage has been rough!! And throw in some pretty bad ppd too. But it is also fun and rewarding watching them grow up. Just remember every thing is just a phase and you will sleep again…. Eventually

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