If you’ve got good caring family members, i don’t think politics plays a roll in where you should move as far as help but I suppose that’s a personal preference. If you could get a job out there I’d move. Truly takes a village. As for nanny , you can search for a nanny share. Often times families do it because it’s cheaper ! Depending what state you are and how you choose to find a qualified nanny will determine the rate you pay. For example, I live in a city where there’s TONS of people willing to babysit or nanny. Know the difference. Rates go from 28 - 40/hour. You can find someone off word of mouth/nextdoor or an agency if you can afford it. They’re heavily screened and certified. Good luck momma, you got this
Nannie’s can be really expensive in California, but I’d you’re open this is where I find affordable Nannies.. I’ll drop the link. They’re usually stay at home moms that have a kid or two and want a bit of extra income and don’t want their kids to be alone. It’s pretty great. A lot of moms tend to charge as much since it’s a side gig. They’re heavily screened and so far it’s been great.
@Sequoia looking into this! Thank you
https://app.junecare.co/r/kica
If you’re eligible for any benefits through the county there’s Crystal Stairs, in some ways I guess you could consider it similar to having a nanny. You choose who’d you like to care for your child when you are unable to and the county pays that person so you don’t have to come out of pocket for it.