Post partum depression

I’m really sorry to read this, I have no suggestions apart from to say you aren’t alone and please do find help… maybe from the drs? 🩷

Speak to your health visitor. Mine is absolutely lovely and they can refer you to get help if needed. I haven't used it yet myself so can't advise on how effective it is.

@Kirsty thank you 🩷

@Chantelle thank you. My worry is if I can to them if they’re going to question my capability as a mother as that’s not a problem at all but don’t want them thinking otherwise. And if they’re help they offer will actually help or make me feel more helpless

I went to the doctors when my youngest was 6 months, I’m on medication and it helps but I’ve also had to put things in place to make sure my needs and mental health is prioritised too. No one ever questioned me, or questioned how I parent. I’m not sure why there is always so much stigma around it. It’s better to reach out and get the support.

Please reach out to your health visitor and/or GP. I had postnatal depression after my first baby was born and was terrified that if I told anyone they would take my baby or say I was an unfit parent, but everyone was so helpful and wonderfully kind. GP got me started on meds and therapy to get me back to being ‘me’. Health visiting helped with support with parenting as I had issues with bonding. I was the same as you’ve said. My baby was well cared for and all her needs were met but then I just had nothing left to do anything else. We had play therapy with a nursery nurse which was so helpful. People will help you, please don’t be scared.

@Emily thank you that’s really reassuring. Was there any help before medication was introduced as I want that to be a last resort x

They absolutely will not question you as a mother! I haven’t got postpartum depression but I did deal with a lot of mental health issues when I was younger. Talking therapies can help and talking to someone you trust also. If they offer medication it can take a while to kick in and potentially make you feel worse for a few weeks. If you find you aren’t getting along with that medication you can switch to others. It’s not your fault and it doesn’t make you any less of a mother and it certainly isn’t a reason for people to question your capabilities. Your body has been through a lot and sometimes just needs a little help rebalancing. You’re amazing, always remember that xx

Please try to eat something even if it’s just little snacks or meals here and there. You need your energy to keep up with your little one and it will also improve the way you’re feeling. Try and get out of the house, do things you enjoy (I know this one’s hard) journaling is also really helpful. If you can please try and get more sleep, sleep deprivation doesn’t help. Try staying away from screens before bed and maybe read a book or even just lay there with your eyes close so you’re still resting xx

@Rosie thank you so much for your kind words 🩷

@Riley that would be my fear too, I think that’s why my immediate reaction was Drs. But also, I didn’t find my health visitors very helpful in general 🩷 but either way; please do seek help and it’s not unusual, especially if you had a tough birth, bad sleepers or you have little parental support… there’s so many reasons it can be hard, let’s be honest. It’s not an easy time and we are told it’s the most perfect time of our lives 🩷 apologies if I’m saying the wrong things xxx

@Rosie Yhh I usually eat little snacks just to keep me going. Trying to sleep but really struggle with insomnia especially when stressed but trying to improve my sleep routine even if I have to force myself To go sleep x

@Kirsty don’t apologise you said everything Amazingly thank you. Will deffo look into booking an appointment at drs

So sorry you're suffering. I thankfully haven't struggled with PPD or PPA (surprisingly to be honest given my past) - but I suffered from an eating disorder, depression and anxiety in my teens and early 20s so I can completely relate to how you're feeling ❤️. Please know there is NO shame in how you're feeling and nobody is questioning your abilities as a mother. I'd recommend speaking with either your health visitor or your GP and they will be able to refer you to get the help you need. You're not alone!! Xxx

I recently went to my gp after silently suffering for a while, I’ve been put on medication and told about service I can contact for someone to talk to, I’m 8 months postpartum. You’re not alone ❤️

@Riley talking therapies, exercising, eating a balanced diet, doing something for you etc. Once I tried all of that, I knew it was something a little more and I needed medication to just take the edge off. It’s massively helped me, but I’ve also realised my mental health matters. I can’t be the mum my kids deserve if I’m not in the right frame of mind.

@Riley you’re an amazing mum and things will get better! Oh good, try and eat some protein snacks or protein shakes as they’ve got more calories but are also small, quick and easy to eat. Is there anything you do to destress? Is there anything that calms/relaxes you that you can do before you get in to bed?xx

Health visitor for sure. I have a history of depression and anxiety and although so far I’m ok this time; midwife and health visitor have both been great at asking and offering the mental health team. Asking for help will be good; they see it as being proactive rather than reactive and will always help you. Hope you are ok; well done for admitting things aren’t okay. 😘

Sorry you’re feeling like this, I have been through ppd and it’s tough. I have seen a medical herbalist who has prescribed herbal remedies to help with mood regulation and sleep. I have also improved my diet and taken some good supplements to boost my nutrient levels. I hope you feel better soon

I went through this and my advice is speak up you need someone to talk to and all i can say is it gets better. I promise

In the same boat love. Message me if you want to talk ❤️❤️