Teen Expectations!

You go mom! You are doing great! Having special toys for at dad's is not a bad thing.

Totally okay not to get him one! But I’d maybe sit him down and let him know before hand to help tamper down his expectations for Xmas! 💜

It’s great that he’s learned that he loves gaming but let him have that for Dad’s place. Show interest and ask him about his games and gaming friends but choose to focus on nurturing his other interests.

Totally as Sarah has said. Moreover, if you can't afford it then there's not even a problem. Explain to your kid that not everyone can afford the same things

He’s already got one at his dads he’s doesn’t need another one

Let me put it this way… “Mom, I want drugs! I can have it at Dad’s. Why won’t you get it for me to have here too?!” Because… We love our children and are trying to do right by them. Be sure that you’re investing time in him though with that “lack” there. Mom and son dates where you guys talk and play together… Go hiking. Get out together. :) Make it more about what he CAN have rather than what he can’t have. They’ll thank us one day, so I’ve been told. 😂

@Sarah What she said! :)

@Heather 🌻 Haha even my son knows better than to do drugs! Yes I do get what you’re saying however my partner and mum think I make too much effort with him and treat him differently to my other son and they believe he should just fit in with our lifestyle and I shouldn’t have to make extra effort cos I’m his mum and that should be enough.. I dunno I do make extra effort but mainly cos I can sense he prefers his dads and so I’ll spend time watching movies and inviting him places but honestly he’s quite an introvert and wouldn’t hike with me or do anything too embarrassing with his mum it’s not how he is x

@Sarah I’m always asking about his gaming (mainly to check who he’s talking too as the internet is a scary place) and he willingly tells me about his games so I’m fully aware of it all however I don’t like the types of games he plays and I can’t pretend to be interested when I’m not that’s like asking him to be interested in baking or upcycling furniture.. not gonna happen 🙄 I always try to ask him if he’d like to learn the guitar or I’ll pay for lessons or do a sport but unfortunately staying in gaming with his virtual friends is more important x

As a mom with a 13 year old , gaming is definitely the talk of the school. It's how a lot of boy teens communicate. My son is the same way about going places because he feels I embarrass him etc.. He has his cellphone in which I have a time limit vs. when he's with his dad he plays all electronics for over 12+ hours a day. I typically break up his day by taking him to the gym to play basketball with other boys, finding science experiments to do, chess, sports, teaching him to cook. Recently we agreed on a family game night where we take turns each week on deciding the activity.