I would look to see if your state has a childcare assistance program. Check what the requirements and see if you qualify.
Go on to the turntous website and put your details in. You maybe entitled to help with childcare costs
Look into a family daycare that’s cheaper and not a big name institutional daycare.
I’d say if the father isn’t participating financially take him for child support so you can afford to do those things I know it sounds mean but as long as all the child support goes to the child or for the child there shouldn’t be any issue my mom was salty but it made her feel better that the money was for me only and my dad would take care of the bills