I don't know how to word the way this makes me feel. Advice please!
Our daughter is staying with my mom tonight. We don't often have alone time.
This evening I tried to have sexy time and my husband told me he just isn't in the mood.
That's fine, if you're not feeling it then I won't pressure you.
....but I noticed an hour later that he was taking a long time in the bathroom. I got up to put on some comfy clothes and the bedroom door was locked. He's never done that before. I unlocked it from the outside and walked in on him masterbating...(I probably should have knocked, but it's OUR bedroom)
I feel very....left out?...blown off, neglected, lied to in some way. It's his penis, so if he wants to please himself on his own then that's fine. I just don't understand..we finally have some alone time and could have sex without waiting for our daughters nap time..I'm conflicted. I feel unwanted and undesirable.
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My partner is very open about this, and tells me all the men’s secrets. If it is how you are saying it then he’s not really that attracted to you sexually anymore.. maybe offer new things to do together, get sexy, idk use pheromone, if that doesn’t work then you guys will need to have some serious conversation alone about what’s going through his mind.
I always say, porn is okay when it's not interfering in your relationship. Might get some hate for this but that's okay. I had that issue with a partner and he had a porn addiction and we barely had sex. It completely ruined our sex lives until he got help. Porn can have very negative long term effects on the brain. So I always advise to be mindful with porn even though I consume it.