Annoying mother inlaw
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@Sanq arghh 2 months is crazy! I once had her and my brother in law at my house for over 3 months + when he was having issues with his wife. I’ve tried almost everything, she is just so narcissistic… I leave my house every single day to be away from her because I just cannot be around her, and yet she still comes around. It’s exhausting:(
Is unbelievable how people can be so selfish. If she cared for his son she wouldn’t be on the way of his family’s happiness. Yes two months is a lot, and second time I leave the house and just go and stay with my parents till they go back! Of course this causes issues between me and my husband but I really cannot stand it. My mother in law starts inviting all his siblings in the house and they overtake my kitchen and talk foreign lenguage so I feel like a stranger in my own house. Drives me insane. I’m 32 weeks pregnant, the coming summer they will come again but this time I cannot leave with a baby so idk how I’m going to handle it and what will I do! Is stressing me from now!
Is there a possibility for you to go and stay with your family and come back when she’s gone?
I'm sorting but at this stage in your pregnancy, she either comes to help or doesn't come. I think you need to put a bigger emphasis of your feelings to your husband. The last thing you need is more work and stress. You're not asking for anything unfair or unrealistic. Could you get him to speak to his siblings and ask them to make her feel wanted at there. Like them ask her to come visit? She might be more inclined to leave if she's invited by them?
@Sanq I am so sorry this happens to you. My mother in law does the exact same! It’s a horrible feeling, I feel like a guest in my own home too!
@Sanq yes there is a possibility but I am a little bit scared of what the outcome may be… what if they all attack me?
@Amanda I have tried, but the rest of my sister In laws don’t want her there either because she is a pain in the butt! She has a daughter actually who would not take responsibility for her what so ever, all she does is complain. It’s definitely a husband problem too, I feel like he’s not considerate of my feelings, and doesn’t care what she does to me
I have spoken to my husband so many times. He says he will get another house for his brother so that his parents can go there aswell. Cos all his siblings are lazy to work and unsuccessful they’ve got no spa e to invite the parents to so my house becomes the community meet up point for all! So getting another house right now I don’t see it happening so this problem will happen again. He keep saying I agreed to his family before marriage and expects me to get along with it! But I really can’t! It damages my mental health! I was thinking to remain at my parents house and give birth there, only return to him when he sorts this problem out. I felt as I should come back as he promised he will do something about it, but I spoke to him couple of weeks ago and again he is stating the same thing. If they ask to come he cannot say to them ‘no dont come’ which means I’ll still have the same problem coming up! I don’t know what to do!
I think the more you keep silent the more she is going to do what she wants to! Maybe confront her or see how your sister-in-laws are managing to keep her away from them!
I am sorry you are experiencing this.present an united front. You are his wife. That is your husband's mother he should set those boundaries. She is an adult she knows what she is doing. You are pregnant you don't need that stress. You deserve to be respected and feel safe and comfortable in your own home.
I feel your pain. I just moved, but for the past 8 yrs I was 5 mins away from my mother in law. She's not the biggest fan of me even though I have never given her a reason not to. Everyone said it's because I to her youngest. She never gave us a break she constantly had my husband help her with every. Called to take groceries upstairs, look at her ice marker, fix her printer, and many more. There were times when her other son would be at her place, but she wanted my husband there. Now I had us move 35mins away from her and all she does is complain. She always causes issues between my husband and I because he doesn't always but boundaries.
Just threaten divorce works like a charm. Stay toxic folks 😘✨
I’m sorry you have to go through this. Is terrible, I have similar issue when my husbands parents visit every summer for 2 months straight! I cannot stand it! Have to tried to give her a hint yourself or maybe ask her to help her with all the work and see how she reacts?