Man.. 😔
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It’s really bad and he never should have said it but I am sure if you talk to him and tell him how you feel he won’t do it again. If he does, I’d consider therapy or moving. I know where you come from. I was unwanted in my family and I was put up for adoption.
Agree with the other two comments. I would also add that you are doing great, you have not failed your son and you can take action now. Your son is still little to understand those kind of words so talking to your partner and explain how that makes you feel and how this will affect your baby, and/or even moving out it’s better sooner than later when he fully understands and starts to create trauma and insecurities. Sending you so much love and strength to deal with this situation.🫶🏽😘
This is a huge issue and I have no idea why these other commenters are brushing it off. Absolutely fucking not okay. If you don't put a stop to it now it will only get worse. The whole situation.. the tone, the details of 5 hours gaming, not thinking about what's in reach of baby, you jumping to clean it up.. all red flags. And there's a reason you feel you've failed him (you haven't) .. this isn't an isolated incident, is it? I get the feeling this isn't "normal" parental frustration. My husband or myself have never once said we've hated our kids and we have been *through* it. Not to eachother and certainly not *to* them. That's not normal.
Sometimes, parents get overwhelmed. I highly doubt he meant what he said. Embarrassingly, when I was overwhelmed and sleep deprived, I made jokes about putting my daughter up for adoption because I couldn't handle it anymore. You should have a talk with your partner about how it makes you feel.