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My closest girlfriends seem to not want to keep our friendships going. I’m starting to see that more and more. Just realizing I don’t have time for superficial relationships anymore. It’s sucks
I would make ONE effort to give them a chance to connect. ONE. Like, ask them if they wanna come over or meet in the middle. If they beat about the bush and don't make time when they have time for other friends and obligations, that's a clear sign they don't value you. When my friends and my baby was born (10 days apart) we didn't see each other for a few weeks but after we settled into motherhood we mutually made an effort to meet up and then took turns visiting each other. Other friends who already have kids or don't have kids still come over. That's where you see the effort.
@Susie I feel like I’ve already done that 😞 she was going to come and then her girls got sick. Instead of leaving them with her husband, she just cancelled. Then, she was going to come a few weeks ago and then it was “I’ll let ya know” because she got a UTI. I asked her how she was feeling the day before she was supposed to come and she said she felt much better. Never heard from her again so she didn’t come… My girl was in the NICU and it was a traumatic experience for me. She said she wanted to bring us dinner one night, never mentioned it again… Typing this out, I think I have my answer. She only sends me memes on Instagram or texts me about shows she watches. I don’t have time for those superficial friendships…I think I’m going to start backing off from acknowledging those things. I need to distance myself I think. I don’t even have time to watch tv anymore, I don’t only want to text about tv shows 😵💫 I’m craving REAL friendships
Oh that sucks. The ball is truly in her court then. And I hate people who say they're gonna help and never do it. Better never to mention it, actions over words. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. But I promise there are ladies that truly wanna be friends, I've made some really good friends recently. Apart from peanut, try local Facebook mom groups and post in them. Meet in a public place like the library just even just to get out of the house if you can and see where it goes from there. All the best to you and your beautiful baby ❤️
Thank you for talking about this with me. I just needed to hear that I wasn’t being dramatic. I figured I wasn’t but wanted to make sure. Thanks for your kind words 💕
Of course you're not dramatic, your feelings are valid and you are entitled to feel sad about the apparent end of some friendships. Some sadly just don't last. And you're welcome 🤗
Yes. I haven't seen a good friend for over a month and I feel guilty so seeing her tomorrow. But I've seen her plenty since our babies were born.