Secondary Losses after MMC

Im not sure what to do any more. I had a friend/coworker announce her pregnancy last month. I told her I was having a hard time and she has been giving me space. Suddenly my space towards her has been "hurtful." She shared her news in the beginning of a staff meeting after I shared my concerns of trying to conceive again with the new president to come. She basically said, yeah I totally get what you mean, I'm 9w pregnant. I literally had to leave work that day. Since then, I will admit I haven't been engaging in small talk with her, out of fear she will talk about her pregnancy. I do engage to the best of my ability in staff meetings, but this isn't enough for her. My other loss is my parents. They don't support my emotions and literally have said this week (to my sister, not me because we're not talking) that I need to "get over it." My loss was 9 months ago. I should have a 3 month old this holiday season, but instead I have nothing. I'm so tired of people putting a time limit of my emotions and grief.

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Never rush your grieving process. Take your time and I’m wishing you your rainbow baby 👶

@Dee thanks! When all this happening at the same time i feel like I'm going crazy or I'm the one that's doing something wrong, but unfortunately none of these people understand what it's like to lose a baby.

My love, don't ever let anyone tell you your grieving is lasting too long. In all honesty, I don't think it's something you'll ever get over. I had two Miscarriages in 2022, one being a missed miscarriage at nearly 10 weeks. I still hurt to this very day, and whilst I am blessed to say we are expecting now, I still have so many days where I cry over our losses and what should have been. A lot of people won't understand what you're going through (or even try to) but know all these feelings you're having are valid. You need to do what's right for you and know that it's your feelings that are valid. I've been there but with a close friend which was extremely hard to navigate. I had a lot of resentment to the world. Stay strong sweet xx

It’s been 2 years since my first loss and I still get very emotional around Christmas since that would have been their birthday. You lost a baby doesn’t matter how far along you were, they were a part of you. There is no timeline for grief never ever feel like you have to “get over it” I cannot believe they said that to you. Don’t let in that negativity and do whatever is best for you and take the time you need. Im so sorry for your loss 💔

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