Visitors in Hosptial

Your going to be very distracted on the day and telling them you are in labour isn't your priority. You may even want to do skin to skin with baby etc for a couple of hours, or may need Dr checks so even if the baby is born you still need your family time. Forget about them and tell them when you're ready, they'll get over it x

Don’t tell them say it was all very sudden and you had so much going on it slipped your mind. Only my mum and dad know about my C-section this coming week and that’s cause they’re looking after my son. My mum will be visiting soon after birth but that’s once again due to her having my son and we want him to be there and be the first to see his new sibling before we send out any form of announcement.

My mum and SIL tried to wait with my first and they were told they had to leave because in my local labour ward, only people waiting to be seen are able to sit in the waiting area. They then moved to the cafe but they ended up having to go home because I was in labour for such a long time. Even once I had my son, it was a good several hours before anybody was allowed in to see him as they're only allowed to visit once you go up to the maternity ward and the visiting times for people who are not the birthing partner are more restricted x

You make the decisions of who is allowed in and who isn't. If they don't respect your decision just tell them that you will be informing the hospital not to allow any visitors. Xx

We have planned not to tell anyone until after. Personally I think it's just easier. None of my family live that close (1.5hrs-3hrs) so it's not like it makes sense for them to come anyway.

Not telling my mother in law for this exact reason as without even asking she assumed she would be at the hospital! Lol!