Postpartum rage

She needs to see her doctor, if she hasn't already. Must be awful to feel the way she does 😥

Can you pay for her to have a regular Friday night sitter for a while? That way she could at least have a guaranteed break to look forward to and a little time to decompress. A few hours for a few months won't solve the whole problem on its own, but it might be enough to get her through a rough time. Things generally do start to ease up around 18/19mo... It would be a gift for your nephew as well because it would help your sis be a better mom for him. 🙂 Maybe she could use the time to see a therapist herself. You are helping by being a caring, responsive listener. It is clear you love them both very much. ❤️

Changing priorities, asking and accepting help, open communication with partner and friends, going outside and exercising. But mostly yea therapy - therapy with the right specialist is the best investment especially since it’s been more than a year.

She probably has a lot of valid reasons to be upset. It sounds like she doesn't have much of a support system, and feels alienated and alone. I had PPD/PPA pretty bad, and meds did help a lot, but i also had to find a support system (mom friends, etc) and learn how to ask for help. Marriage counseling as well. I hope her spouse is supportive.

I will see what I can do to help her. I wish that I could just be there.. thank you all 🫶

I highly recommend trying some meds for it. I was lashing out, even yelling at church when people asked how I was doing. I wanted to tear down my home with my bare hands. I got on meds maybe 3-4 months after the church incident with my SIL basically taking me out of the church saying “we will find you someone to talk to” The meds were different than just antidepressants. I do highly recommend finding ways so she can be away from the family for hours. Either the husband takes the toddler out so she can be home by herself. My husband works way too much so I pay for 3 hours of care on Wednesdays. In general, it really suck. listening and trying your best to let her talk helps

Hi. I’m 9 months postpartum and I had and occasionally still have some rage. I do a lot of breathing exercises sometimes guided ones. I use music to help my mood. The biggest help for me was reclaiming time for myself. To cook, clean, rest, or feel human. So encourage her to talk to her doctor. Since you’re far away, make and share a playlist on YouTube or whatever streaming service that you both can edit and access. Tell her how you can help “do you want me to listen, distract, or just keep company in the background?” Sometimes being present for her is enough.

I'm almost 2 and a half years post partum and still struggle with these feelings. I've done CBT programs, i suggest therapy, because it's good to have an outside source other than family/partner. The most that has helped me is having a plan to get out of the house, having friends periodically check in, but I've also cut out people who can't be present for me, mainly because the let down adds to the hurt. I highly suggest looking into tapping /breathing for in those rage moments. Also, finding some community on here has been helpful to not feel so alone. Another thing would be making time for self care, bringing back some time for herself, even if that's getting a shower.