What would you do please

Want to know what you think/would do. My partner BM #1. I’ve been with him since SD was 2, BM1 has always been easy. They broke up as she had zero interest in sex, their daughter was an early relationship whoops and he never was in love with her but loved her and stuck around for little one. Anyway, like I say she’s always been easy we’ve all got on fine, she comes for dinner at his dads at Christmas, even comes for dinner here and has come to kids parties etc. watched our daughter. It’s been a bit of a no boundaries go parenting relationship. I have been a bit annoyed at this in the past with things like, her just walking in the house, walking upstairs while im getting dressed (to help her daughter get ready but still) makes herself drinks (doesn’t even offer me one) I’ve let it slide because again, it’s been “easy”. Here’s my current problem: She has recently asked my partner if he and HE ALONE would like to join her and their daughter on a trip saying “there is a spare bed”. I can’t stop thinking about it and I’m pretty angry to be honest! Bit of an overstep? Disrespect? Quite frankly want to ban her from Xmas dinner 😂 wtf would you do and am I being ridiculous? Partner thinks she’s harmless and I’ve mostly always felt that way too. But it is the nice ones 👀

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She's invited you on a trip and you think that's disrespectful?

That's what I'm not understanding either. Did she invite you on the trip, or your partner?

@Aimee asked my partner if HE would like to join, not me or our other kids as there is one spare bed

Why is she coming in your house whilst you’re getting dressed to help her daughter get ready?

Sorry, I must have misunderstood. I thought you said if he would like me to join her

@Aimee it was my fault it appears my phone picked up a random “Me” and threw it in the worst possible spot 😂🫠

Yeah that’s going into dodgy territory I’m afraid 😟 I would not be happy about that if it was me, in fact I would be very jealous! I think she is starting to take advantage of your good & understanding nature. For her to just walk into your home is unacceptable. You need to set some boundaries before things get any worse!

Oh, now that it is corrected, she must have lost her ever loving mind. She doesn't need to be at yours for Christmas, the childcare do all a day with each parent can't they. It seems like there aren't enough boundaries. She should only be knocking and sitting on the chair in your house. Going upstairs is inappropriate unless she asks you for permission so she can assist her daughter. There needs to be clear lines drawn.

That woman is super disrespectful to u dont allow her to step into ur home and for her to feel she can do whatever she likes. For her to invite your man to go on a trip with them alone means she wants his D thats how i see it.