Sex after birth

Everyone is different plus your birth experience plays a big role in it Alsong as you wait at least 6 weeks before trying anything you'll be safe to try

@Emma-louise we waited till the 6 weeks but when we tried I was in too much pain. Waited again until 8 weeks, and still painful :( it just is disappointing.

I waited 6 weeks and it didn’t hurt it was just really uncomfortable for me

Have you tried plenty of foreplay and lube? Even gradually building up to the actual sex over a few occasions should help But again I think it really depends on your personally delivery

2/3 weeks post birth, it was a bit painful but did get better each time x

I waited 8 weeks after caesarean and zero pain. You might need lube if breastfeeding, the hormones dry you up xx

You need pelvic floor PT. They help with sexual pain pp. Lube and foreplay are not going to be enough.

Sometimes it's hormonal and not a physical issue. The pain went away after a few months (I had had a rough birth with an episiotomy and third degree tear) but I had some level of discomfort for a long time. My period was very delayed due to breastfeeding but as soon as my period came back all of the discomfort disappeared.

It wasn’t painful but my pelvic floor/lower stomach was hurting afterwards

Just get some lube cuase your body not producing enough natural lube , that could help out and having him be gentle at same time to help the pain and discomfort

The pain is almost like the lower right area of my vulva - not internal at all. I will definitely try a different kind of lube. We’re being very gentle or will sometimes just stop. Doing plenty of foreplay. I’m not BFing but exclusively pumping- so similar hormones to BFing but not as intense. Thank you everyone ❤️

Does it hurt when he fingers you? Sometimes you don't tear in labour but get a small graze. It does heal.

It’s different for everyone especially if and where you tore (I tore up instead of back) 😖 I healed earlier than 6 weeks but I still waited the full 6 weeks. When we tried a few days later a lot of foreplay first then proceeded. It definitely hurt a little but it was bearable. I want to say when my daughter was roughly 1.5/2 months old it stopped hurting completely

7 months postpartum and it is now only painful if it hasn't been properly warmed up. It still takes a lot longer to get going compared to before. It's painful when my partner goes straight to penetration but not painful if I'm given time and gentle foreplay to get turned on before he enters. It's still very different from how it used to be before giving birth and I've accepted it probably won't ever be like that again