Tattoo for baby

I know this might sound really silly but I want to get a tattoo to celebrate my little girl being born. I also have a stepdaughter but I was wanting to just have my daughters birthday or something as the tattoo not my stepdaughters. How do I explain this to stepdaughter? She will probably see the tattoo at some point and ask about it as she has with my others and I don’t want to seem like I’m leaving her out but also it’s a tattoo it’s not some small thing. I don’t feel like it’s one of them where I can include both of them as it’ll be on my skin forever but i don’t know how to explain it without seeming like an awful person. Am I really overthinking this? Has anyone else done this and had problems or has it been completely fine and I’m just worrying for nothing? I feel like we go so far to make sure our stepchildren feel included but this is something where I just want my biological daughters birthdate not my stepdaughters.

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@Ellie yeah I don’t want to sound like a bad person but for this I just want my own daughters name or something :/ friendship bracelet is a very good idea! Could have one ready for when she asks My partner has no tattoos and couldn’t think of a way to explain why I just have my daughters to stepchild as she’s just 6 and every way I have thought of sounds bad in my head or could come across the wrong way

@Ellie also that is a beautiful tattoo!! X

@Tink yeah i bet it’s hard to think of a way that doesn’t sound horrible. Would your tattoo be visible to her? If not, don’t say anything 😂 Obviously if it is visible, then you’d have to explain that you aren’t her mum but still love her very much and then offer the friendship bracelet to her if you find one ready made or not. I’d personally make some together so it’d an activity as well for her 😊 Hope you find the right words x

@Ellie I did think about just keeping it quiet 😂 I want to get it back of neck of inside my wrist tho so eventually I feel like she would see either of those places… thank you so do I! X

You aren’t her mum and you are allowed to do things for yourself and your child without including her, just as her mum does things without including your child. X

I had the same thought process, in the end i did it without them being included but at one point i was going to include their birth flowers into the tattoo, please dont feel guilty you can love your SC all the world but you are allowed to do something special for just you and the baby.