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Well, that is a good question. My daughter was born 30 January 2023. She's almost 2. And it was really heavy the first year and half. Not only because of her like you said. But also because it is hard to be a new mother. It's not just take care of the baby. It's your whole word who is upside down. What you used to be have now to be another you that you are discovering little by little. You also have to learn (again) how to be with your partner as a new mom and new dad. Your whole vibe as a couple change

. Because you're not a couple anymore you're now a family. And there no more what he need and you need. It's also now what baby need. And what's the best for both of you. It's a lot of work and lot of compromises. You have to be kind, and patient. Even when you're not sleeping well. Or not feeling well. It's being a team against the world. I mean if you ask me it's a lot in only a year ! So much work so much things to do and to figured out. So please be kind to yourself. And ignore everybody who doesn't support you or understand you. Even if they are family. Because family will never drown you down.

Hi, I agree with Julia and my Toddler is 20 months old and we can already feel a difference, it seems like it is slowly getting easier and in fact my husband and me just discovered a very new spark in our relationship, and that even though we have a 4 month old baby too. We grew so much together, worked on ourselves so much that now it's starting to look brighter even though we have a second baby and it is harder than before (circumstances). I definitely experienced and still sometimes experience loneliness, being let down by some people and that life in general got harder and sometimes boring and empty. For me on top of everything that was going on, I also completely lost my self worth and am trying as hard as never before to restore it. I suffered from horrible postpartum depression after both babies, but especially the second. Now I am trying new things, making it a point to go out by myself and to take care of myself like I did when I was a single girl.

You’re not alone. I just ended an 8 year relationship with my son’s father. been going to therapy to help navigate the relationship issues. it seemed like things just kept getting worse the more I healed and enforced boundaries. I’m at a place where things are going to get worse before they get better.. & I think that’s kind of how motherhood works. The first few years are heavy tons of responsibilities plus the change of becoming a new mother, new family dynamics, & hormones still adjusting. You got this mama. Feel free to message me.

When you had a baby, you lost all the free time you used to put into other people and yourself, and you're seeing who is really there for you and what things rely on your extra effort. In a way it's gratifying, because the missing piece is you. You were keeping it all together. ❤️ It does get better as your child gets older and more independent, but yeah, it's a hard process to go through of finding out. You'll have time for these things again, but you'll also have great information about whether you actually want to invest time in these people and activities again or you want to try out some new ones.