Playing in diaper

My 2 year old is constantly playing in his diaper. It has gotten to be such an issue because he does it with poop and just plays with the poop. I’m 8 weeks postpartum and dealing with PPD. I mentally just can’t handle this. We started only letting him wear pant/long sleeve onesies/zippies but he will stretch the clothes so he can still shove his hand in his diaper. I’m losing it 😩😭 he is causing me so much extra anxiety since I’m alone with the kids majority of the time. It’s hard to change is diaper immediately like I use to. does anyone have any advice??

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Advice you won't like. Potty training time?

honestly, it’s not that I don’t like that advice, I’m just struggling with how to get started. I was going to potty train prior to his sister being born. Literally have all the stuff to get started. He is nonverbal so trying to figure out how to handle the communication aspect has been my problem.

I'm sorry it's causing you so much anxiety! I'm a mom of three boys, and they all did it. My 2 year old smeared poop all over himself when I was at work just the other day. He's nonverbal and nowhere near ready to potty train. My 4 year old was nonverbal until 3 1/2, and he is just now potty trained. It was the same for my oldest. If they can't talk, they aren't ready. My two younger boys have signs of ADHD as well. My oldest was diagnosed with ADD at the age of 5 their dad has ADHD so knowing that it gave us an understanding of why they do the things they do. I'm not saying your little has ADHD but if it runs in your family, maybe it would give you an understanding of why he's doing that.

my husband has ADHD so we know it’s a possibility. My son was also evaluated for autism. We’re just waiting on the report to confirm. I think it’s just a lot at one time. We didn’t have this issue before she was born so it was a lot to add in to bringing a new baby home 😣 I know it can be developmentally normal, just not sure how to handle it. I thought it was getting better since it’s been almost 2 weeks since he’s done this but it happened last night and again this morning 😮‍💨

He may just be regressing. All of my boys were evaluated for autism too. Their doctor claims they are too young to be diagnosed ADHD (that's just my experience) ADHD causes a LOT of development issues. I hope you get your answers 🤍

The non verbal thing definitely has me stumped. So, when I was worried about my dude messing with his diaper, but wanting him cooler in the summer nights, I found some short sleeve, shorts, zip up pj's. So, kinda like a onesie? Granted at the time he didn't know how to work a zipper... Think that would help? Or keep him in anything full body (like footie pj's).

I’ve seen some hacks where people will put the full zip up pajamas backwards to discourage them from unzipping. It’d have to be pajamas without the feet part or maybe cut an opening on the feet if that’s what you have. Might be worth a shot 🤷🏻‍♀️

that’s all he wears at home currently because I thought it would help.. he just stretches the fabric into his diaper 😵‍💫

unfortunately, he stretches the fabric into his diaper so it wouldn’t matter if it was backwards 😅

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Partner no longer wants baby #2

Before our son was born we originally both wanted minimum 2 kids but we were hoping for 3-4. My partner found the birth traumatic to watch and also struggled a lot with the newborn/baby stage. He no longer wants to have any more children and it’s completely breaking my heart. I need another baby. We’ve spoken about it a lot and the options. He said he wasn’t COMPLETELY closed off to it so I asked him to try and work through his feelings and reconsider his decision. He eventually said he definitely doesn’t want another. I know that I will always want one and my feelings will never change. Do we have to break up or does anyone know anything else I can do to help change his mind? Has anyone else’s partner said this and then changed their mind? I don’t want to break up because I adore him and our life together and I’d hate to split up our family for “selfish” reasons and make my son miss out on having both of us together but I just don’t know what to do