Why is our parents generation soo judgemental??

My mom tried to judge a few times and I made it very clear that I only accept support, encouragement, help and constructive criticism (very constructive). She seems to be doing much better and I haven’t seen any judgment so far. Motherhood is hard enough already and I was not ready to spare any energy on my parents’ judgment.

My husband's grandma is 102 and the most judgemental person alive, also I worked in senior care for a decade, old people are ruthless, think your baby should be potty trained at a year and using a fork exclusively at 18 months even with difficult foods like long noodles 🙄🤣 So that being said, if you think our parents are bad you should know their parents were probably even worse, even if they're playing nice when you see them.

I literally just went thru this this weekend. Left me angry, drained, overwhelmed n just in a negative space.

@Natasha exactly how I feel!

I think the older they get, they crankier they tend to be. Not to defend them, but it’s gotta suck feeling like your body is failing you, the “good old days” are long gone, half your friends and family are now dead…and you’re looking down the tunnel of death myself. I mean, I know how cranky my toddlers are when they’re not feeling well, and even my husband. So imagine that but way older ! Just saying …not defending because my dad is the worst and my mom is judgemental but getting better at at least keeping her mouth shut about it. My grandmother died 3 mos before my first child was born (that really sucked), so I don’t know how she would have acted. But being in her 90s, she was def the most judgemental of everyone !

I completely understand. My dad has been actually angry at me for not allowing him to kiss my baby. He told me I’m not a good mother if I don’t kiss my baby. Then my MIL banded with my Dad at my daughter’s first birthday party, got me when my husband was off socializing and said how they both agree they should be able to kiss my baby. My baby is 13 months and it’s rsv season and flu season. Wild how entitled the older generation acts

My Mom doesn’t even care to get to know my son or now my daughter either. My older daughter is 15 years older than my son and 17 years older than my younger daughter and my older daughter was treated like she could do no wrong. She was truly loved by my mom and my younger 2 get in trouble for touching the wind chimes that are indoor and hanging low enough for a 2 year old to reach. My mom has been SO MEAN to my son who is 5 now and she has been mean to him since he was 1.5 years old. It’s super toxic and she had even called him names or talked negatively around him that It is very damaging to him. My baby boy is just a kid and my little baby girl is barely 3. They don’t know how to do the right thing around their Grandma. It’s very sad to me.

@Kerri first of all I'm SO sorry you're going through this. That's horrible behavior and favoritism and your mom should know better. Second, I completely understand and am going through a similar situation. My 2 sets are parents are just not involved with my first and only child whatsoever. They live sorta far away but not that far so I was still expecting them to be somewhat involved but none of them are and they know nothing about my son 🤷🏼‍♀️ the only parents I have where Iive are my in-laws. I assumed my MIL would be EXTREMELY involved in my son's life because that's how she's been with her 2 granddaughters (one of which is my teenage step daughter). But apparently she just favors girls over boys. She had 3 boys and no daughters so I guess she wants to raise her granddaughters like her own but wants nothing to do with my son since she's over boys. Both girls have rooms at her house and constantly stay the night there, she provides full time chid care for them basically. My son has never been invited.