Are your kids better behaved for their father? (Why do some dads think they're better at childcare than their wife who watches them throughout the week?!)
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Kids naturally act up more with who they feel safest with, parents included. Not to say anyone’s husband/partner is dangerous, but as moms we’re often the go to parent. They inherently are their most difficult (usually) with mom.
What she said ⬆️. My kids are extremely well behaved for my husband, their grandparents, their teachers. They let it all out with the person they feel most comfortable with. Although it’s very challenging at times, try to take it as a compliment 😅 easier said than done I know.
No, my son has been a problem since he decided he wanted to be a December baby instead of a March one. He acts the same with either one of us and it’s a sour patch kid mixed with Tommy pickles 😂😂 but he’s generally well behaved when we are around family. My daughter is 7 months old but she is an angel for me and gives everyone else hell. I truly think if we had pouches she’d go back in and never come out 😂😒
So I don't have a husband, but I've noticed the kids I regularly teach at the daycare are little menaces most of the time but when I subbed for them before they were my kids they were angels. Same with the other kids I randomly have. I talked to the other teachers about it, and it's pretty normal for the kids to he more misbehaved when they are comfortable with a teacher.
Yes sometimes kids act out with who they feel most comfortable with & sometimes they act out because they feel they can get away with it without much consequences. I have a friend who does all the punishment/consequences & her kids are always giving her a hard time. Meanwhile with the dad they "act perfect" but only because he let's them get/do whatever. They're happy because they get what they want & sit in front of the tv all day eating junk so ofc they don't throw tantrums. Parenting is different for everyone. What works for one may not work for the other. Instead of jumping on you for "not doing enough" he should be a good partner & ask how he could help
It's opposite in our house. And I support my husband in that. We have very smart. High masking PDA autistic girls.. I know wtf they doing b4 they do it. But my husband let's all his emotions out to be played with.. this can be a game for a PDA girl.. picking at u to see how u react.. and the littlest one.. just turned 3.. loves to push dad's buttons to blow him up.. and then will smile.. cuz she did it and feels in a 1 up and don't know exactly what's she's doing.. she's playing in a social hiarchy thing she doesn't understand. She just thinks it's funny she can set off and kinda control and pattern the natural dominant in the house. I know and feel it and give them nothing, so it's not fun.. so they don't to me. I don't tell him he's shit.. he's my person.. we talk tools so he not being master manipulated by a 3 yo. Learning how people work and thinks she's in play.
Okay, and I want to ask an autistic question while I'm here.. For me, I assume people are doing their best and offer help.. to see how that works first. Support gets u where u want people way faster.. U guys typically assume they just don't want to and add a bunch of shame and blame to the situation first.. which they could be truly struggling, and u just gave them horrible validation to their true person. Making them feel worse, and it will help nothing if that's the case.. u just cut urself off from their mental/emotional space.. u don't know them.. Or maybe they don't know self.. and they are just horrible. They have to go over this now.. instead of working on what u think is the real problem.. Why? I have never understood this.
What does your husband consider a “bunch of picking up and cleaning”? Is he doing laundry, making meals, hoovering, washing up, ironing, actually cleaning the house, or is he doing a general de-clutter and some odd bits? And how long is he actually left with both children alone? Is it a few hours or is it all day? I’d come up with an excuse for why I need to be away for a couple days and see how many home cooked meals he’s made, has he done all the laundry? Is the home clean and tidy when you get back? Because I very much doubt it would be with most men 🤣🙄
My daughter is an absolute angel for everyone BUT ME. 😭😅 It used to bug me and make me think I was doing something wrong, but so many seasoned mamas that I trust have assured me it means I'm doing everything right. I'm her safe place...and as exhausting and frustrating as that is some days, that's how it's supposed to be. 💜
My girls are still being nursed around the clock so it’s a bit hard to tell, naturally they’re more fussy with me because I’ve got the boobs and can comfort them in a way that he and no else can but they’re behavior is pretty good lol it’s great actually lol they’re nanny calls them angels 😇 😇anyhow so there’s that with my son, I would say that he’s a bit worse when my husband is around at times as he’s a bit more lenient than me in certain areas. But then again I’m not too sure my son is just a lot for anyone to manage it just depends on how he’s feeling on any given day he’s a good kid overall but he definitely has his moments with everyone that’s just what it is with him 🫠
*it's NOT like that for us