Am I being petty?

My husband has just called me petty and unreasonable and I just don’t get it . Since I was pregnant his family have been so horrible to me to this day. They will lie that they call me when they don’t call or text me . It has been problem after problem after problem with them to the point I have decided to just keep my distance . This Christmas they have asked my husband if they can come over and I said no. I’m a residential care kid and I grew up not having traditional family xmases and for the first time this year I am not celebrating Christmas homeless, crying or sleeping to avoid seeing people celebrate . This year is really special for me as my little one is in the picture and I want to enjoy every memory I can and actually have a glass of bubbly and enjoy myself and dance even if it’s just us 3. He says I’m being unreasonable and I should allow them to come? I feel like this is my first actual Christmas and I just don’t want them to ruin it for me . What can I do?

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I wouldn’t say petty just setting your own boundaries. Surely they can do Christmas Eve or the day after on Boxing Day. You have your own family now it’s not about anyone else imo.

I am all about living my life on my own terms. You do you and try to explain to him in peace how they make you feel, he should be able to see things from your perspective. In my marriage the most important thing is us two and then the rest. I hope you get a peaceful merry Christmas! P.s. If you don't want any drama just say you got a flu or something.

I don't think you're petty. It's your house too. But if he wants them to come over for another day I think you might have to find a compromise because it's his house too.

I don’t think your being petty or unreasonable at all. You have your own little family now and that’s what’s most important and your husband should respect your wishes. Have you explained your reasonings to your husband as to why? If so then he doesn’t sound very understanding about your upbringing as I’m struggling to see how he can’t understand how important and special it is to you. As others have said, Xmas eve or Boxing Day is more than reasonable. Stick to your guns x

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