Problems with divorced sister in law
Just venting and seeing you ladies deal with it ?
I have a 50 year old divorced sister in law with a teen daughter living with my mother in law back home.
She was never well to do and had a relaxed career all along like working 4 hrs for 4 days per week.
We stay in canada with 2 kids. Both me and my husband we work but with inflation we live paycheck to paycheck.
My sister in law keeps on asking money from my husband and keeps on crying in front of him to get attention and money. He tries his best to make her, his mom and niece happy but he keeps on taking burden of my sister in law. Like he will partially fund niece fund and keeps my sister in law money for few expenses. I don’t have a problem in him taking care of his family but sometimes I feel it’s a bit too much pressure on me. I earn well then my husband and would like to save for my 2 kids and splurge on myself as well but I can never do.
Like wenever he goes back home he would buy branded bags branded creams for his sister. I never splurge on myself and try to live very modestly.
I M not sure wat to do because it’s stressing me out. I work very hard here in canada, do Full time job, cook, clean, take care of kids. It’s not very easy here so I get upset when I see my sister in law getting everything decorated on her plate and all I do is struggle here.
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This is a husband problem and less of a sister in law problem. Me and my husband do quite well, far from rich. But we do well. So everyone thinks we have extra $$ to give out. His sister is always in a financial bind, a few times he has helped. But he put a stop to it . So she stopped asking
Sorry that you're dealing with this. I'm sure it's beyond stressful. Sounds like your husband needs to put his foot down and set some boundaries. He can't continue to take from his home and family, to support his sister who appears to not want to support herself. Her crying and guiltily your husband isn't fair and he shouldn't be allowing it to happen. If possible, I'd say have a long and honest conversation with him about what you're feeling and how it's affecting you and your household. She's 50, with a teen daughter, and depending on her brother (who has his own family) to fund her lifestyle.. bonkers.