I cried..

It’s a norm with most of these men. Take your time. Don’t act out of the emotions. Don’t be quick to break your home. Seek counseling or therapy and probably have a third party involved in the situation Am telling you, men and flirting or womanizing and cheating is the most couples have to deal with, God will help everyone. Also pray for him and your marriage if you can Sorry about all you’re dealing with

I believe it comes down to respect, and if my husband behaved that way I would not feel that he respected me. Obviously everyone has their own threshold and values but I think if you're posting on here anonymously you may already know what you want to do.

I always see people say they don't want a broken home but I think it's better for your kids to be from a broken home than in a broken home. This isn't your fault. He's the one who broke things. I would end things because that is the only way to not let him get away with this.

He would not appreciate anyone calling you baby no matter what country they were in. Don't accept that bs. Make your plan and get out. He does not feel bad about this at all and will continue doing it as long as you allow. I'm sorry this is happening to you. 💙 I wish it were more rare.

Unacceptable behaviour and disgusting that he’s trying to gaslight you when you confront him about it. Trust me there are good men out there who wouldn’t dream of treating their wives this way. I would ask him if he’s willing to step up, stop the bs, and go to couples therapy. That’s if you want to stay with him. I’m so sorry you’re going through this :(

A broken home is far better than a home where you are miserable and being taken advantage of by a gross man with zero respect for you. Your children seeing that behaviour and dynamic is far more harmful. At this point, he has already broken your home and you fix it by leaving

@Oma this is the shittiest take I have ever seen and I am shocked to see a woman advise another woman to accept being disrespected in this way. And to say it is the norm too … my goodness. It is most certainly not the norm and if there is no respect in the sanctity of this marriage by him then the marriage itself is pointless and superficial. She deserves respect and happiness and she doesn’t get that by praying for her cheating husband. She gets that by leaving him and showing her children that such gross behaviour will not be tolerated and that is not what love is

@Alexandra amen to this! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

If my partner disrespected me like this he would be out the door so fast. You deserve better.

I feel like if he had something to hide he wouldn't let you use his phone at all. My boyfriend also has this WhatsApp addiction and for whatever reason he feels comfortable showing me the garbage that comes up on his phone??! Like I'm like why are you showing me this?! He's honestly like I don't know I thought maybe it would have get you aroused too and or I just felt like showing you. I'm like no it doesn't get me off look at that in your own time. We don't even know where these women live or whatever or who or what they are. Sometimes it gets on my nerves and I feel like it's cheating, But my boyfriend is a guy's guy so I don't really let it bother me. I trust him completely I mean he wouldn't be showing me his phone if he had something to hide?? 😅😒 Like some of this stuff completely throws me off I'm like baby please keep it to yourself! If I don't feel like it's cheating sometimes I think he takes my kindness for weakness. Like because I give him freedom he just I don't even know what it is... 😒

The guy is a cheat no matter how you look at it. Emotional cheating, actually physically cheating... the home is already done as there's no trust no respect. Get rid!!

Trust goes far! My longtime boyfriend of 2 and 1/2 years has been depending on me to get my own place for the most part and it's a lot on me sometimes. I don't think that he cheats on me at all. However he was living with a female before we started dating a while ago. I see him everyday and he often goes home very late. I understand she's hardly ever there. It's hard on me because I'm sure she touches him even though she's also in her own relationship now. And I have no proof that any of this is carrying on. At least I'm sure she would bother him if she could. At this point they're just like roommates while we work out our technical difficulties personally. She's not there much. Has never been the girl of his dreams. You just really have to have trust. You're lucky that your guy doesn't seem to be hiding anything!

Wow that’s really shady, and for him to just defend his actions when you catch him? It doesn’t sound like he’s even claiming he will stop so it’s up to you: stay with a cheating spouse who openly disrespects you and doesn’t care about your feelings, or start planning to leave

It’s so disrespectful for him to be talking to any other women! I wouldn’t put up with that! Unless you make this clear and known, he. Will just keep doing this! You deserve better and so do your kids so I hope you can talk to him and he’s willing to change. Other than that I would just leave him if he won’t stop! It’s not good for kids to grow up with a father who has no respect for their mother. You are basically showing them that this kind of this is okay! I won’t stay with someone if they treated me this way: I know my worth! Know yours too! If you really love someone, you wouldn’t be behaving this way!

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Red flags everywhere! I believe kids would be better off in separate homes where their mum is happy and respected.

This is NOT typical or acceptable. It sounds like this is a clear boundary of yours and he isn’t respecting it. The spiteful answer is to do the same and see how he feels. Talk with a bunch of men. Download a bunch of dick pics and justify it as “I’d never see it in person so it’s okay.” See how he feels. The actual answer is to set boundaries and let him know that the future of your relationship depends on his respect and communication. Emotional affairs are a thing and having a baby is hard on everybody (totally worth it, but hard). You deserve a man who is obsessed with you and only you.

Thanks Ladies, you've all been really helpful

@Sarah I agree! Don't ever be naive! Men are not to be trusted always. in the past my boyfriend never cared about what was on my phone so long as I was entertained. He's the one with the life not me. But I am with my boyfriend 24/7 either in person or on the phone. We talk until we fall asleep. Of course he has to tend to his laundry and things. We do put the phone down sometimes. If he's not coaching football, he's takes his kids outside of the home.

@Sarah My boyfriend also works, and he is away from his phone when he's working. however he is always on the go at work and doesn't have downtime. I often hear him being friendly with women in the backgrounds, and I hope that he is kind to others! 🙏 🙂 His last job was pretty similar however he could use his phone some at work. As soon as he gets a break from working he calls me. He comes home at the same time everyday his habits aren't hidden.

Finding it very strange how many people are normalising this. Know your worth

If you want a cheating man then stay, if you don’t start to develop your exit plan. I personally left while pregnant because I don’t tolerate lying, cheating, and disrespect. I rather co-parent and have peace of mind.

You've got to set the example for your children to treat themselves and those they love with respect You are worth much more x

Running!!!! Let that single man go live his life because that is not a husband.