Regret moving my partner in

My husband loses everything. He misplaces them then accuses me of taking them. This really gets to me since he comes at me like I'm a thief and a liar anytime he loses something. I ask him to just look for whatever it is before asking me first but he never does. While he confronts me about said lost item, I repeatedly tell him to look where he put it last. Instead of doing this, he stands in the same spot, telling me that I'm always taking his stuff and losing it, that I'm irresponsible, yadda yadda. Sometimes I get fed up and end up looking for it myself and what do you know, I find it in the same place I knew it would be. Or he finds it in the same place he said it wouldn't be. He then laughs it off "That was a test/I knew that" while I sit there upset. This isn't a weekly or monthly thing, this is an every single day thing. Never apologizes to me for accusing me of stealing his things. I tell him to stop doing this. It seriously gets on my nerves and makes me feel like I'm on trial. One thing about me is that I'm not a liar. I just don't lie. I prefer to be upfront about anything because why make things harder on myself? I tell him I feel like he's calling me a liar when he does these things. When I tell him my feelings about this, he tells me it's not that serious, I'm overreacting, "get over it already", "you're just trying to argue with me", and continuously cuts me off while I'm speaking and it turns into an argument. I end up feeling even more defeated. When I can't get a single sentence out to defend myself, it triggers an anxiety attack. He'll ask me questions and when I start to answer them, he'll cut me off and accuse me of being argumentative. I just don't understand his thought process. Instead of looking where he last put his items, he confronts me like a police officer. Ive started many conversations about this and everytime, he says he'll stop. And he doesn't.
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Yea sorry girl, but your husband hates you. That’s not normal behaviour at all and he is taking his shit out on you on purpose. I would be looking at taking the next steps to get that divorce started because he’s not going to change. Don’t try and understand his thought process - when you hate someone there is no reasoning with them. Don’t keep having more regrets, time to get rid and move on. When you find someone who truly loves you, worships the ground you walk on and does everything in their power to keep you happy, you’ll look back on this period and wonder why you stayed with this awful man for so long.

What @Neena said. He seems to get off on getting a rise out of you. He knows exactly what he is doing and probably loves keeping you slightly off balance. Stand up for yourself. Stop responding to it. Just say - ‘I’m not playing your silly games anymore.’ Then leave it at that. He will get angry and try to escalate in another way. Then you’ll see the true monster behind the mask.

@Hopeful I’m gonna just say I don’t know then walk into a different room

He's playing mind games to keep you on edge. He wants you emotionally exhausted because then you're easier to manipulate. This is a real tactic that abusers do and is a form of gaslighting

He doesn't hate u, girl he just uses u like a servant cause he lazy stop looking for his ish. As a matter of fact, throw small stuff away and actually start lying when people play games with u get wise, not mad. Sit back and relax while he goes crazy looking. That will teach him how to be responsible. u have a man-child on your hand. Don't baby him set boundaries

If it's everyday he's gotta go. Gaslighting and calling you names let alone implying your stealing is a hard to overcome!

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