Little boy being put into a girly dress at nursery
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I’d maybe say you don’t mind about him dressing up but he didn’t look very happy in the photo. Maybe there wasn’t enough to go round or maybe he was unhappy about something else. We have photos of my son dressed in dresses at nursery but it’s probably as he was playing alongside the girls.
In My nursery it’s very normal for the boys to put princess dresses on.. just like the girls dress as builders, super hero’s, they are just having fun. My son is a real ‘boy’ superhero’s, tractors, dino’s etc. BUT he absolutely loves putting frozen dress on and dancing around!
I would just ask about it. Just say he has never shown interest in dressing up in a dress before so you were just wondering how it happened
If you're not ok with it, say something. Just like you're being non judgemental of other peoples opinions, they need to respect yours. He's your baby. Ask why he was wearing a dress and not a superhero outfit. You can tell them what he prefers at home and that you would prefer for him to be able to have full choice over what he wants to wear. Unless he requests to wear a dress, don't put him in one.
@Karen i agree with your take wholeheartedly. It doesn’t imply an issue with the “gender” of the costume (which doesn’t seem to be her issue with the incident anyway), it focuses on her child and the fact that he didn’t seem happy wearing the dress. I think the focus on her son is far more important than the costume anyway because this being addressed now will lessen any further issues in the long run.
@Sara you’ve hit the nail on the head. I regularly take my son to role play centres with his friends and alone and if he had ever asked me to dress up in a dress, I wouldn’t bat an eyelid and would help him dress up regardless of the item of clothing. But because he never has asked to wear a dress and looked unhappy in the picture I thought it was a little off. Of course toddlers don’t take the best of pictures 🤣🤣 but I don’t want them thinking I’m annoyed or prejudice because of the item of clothing.
It's refreshing to see comments not going off on one about how "boys can't wear dresses" 🥰 however, due to your little one looking unhappy in the dress id definitely ask the nursery how to came to happen and request it doesn't happen again unless he is 100% excited by the idea
Thank you everyone for your viewpoints and advice. I think people can be quite quick to judge when it comes to certain topics. And I am a neutral, live and let live type of person. I want to make sure my son was happy to wear the dress and it wasn’t chosen for him because they ran out of clothing. (I know all toddlers can’t be forced to be happy at all times and toys/ role play clothes etc are shared in a nursery setting) Depending on their response, I will ask them not to put dresses on him in future, if he hasn’t chosen it for himself.
I would simply ask why was he put in a dress and go from there. I don’t think anything you say will come across as mean,it’s your child.