Family & postpartum

I’ve only had me and my partner and im managing quite well so far that being said though i have a very easy baby but either way from the sounds of it they wouldn’t be much help anyway

If they step over the line now, I can tell you they will over step once baby is here. Being postpartum while people continue to push their boundaries is worse than just doing it with you and your partner! My boys came at 25 weeks and were in the NICU, I was dealing with all the postpartum feelings and then on top of that, information and anxiety about my baby’s and my mother in law was brilliant but she over stepped multiple times to the point I was on the verge of a mental breakdown! The nurses were amazing and could see what way it was going but please do not allow anyone in that time to allow you to be feeling like crap, PP hormones are no joke and in my opinion worse than pregnancy ones. Lots of love!

@Millie thank you so much for this♥️

@Emma thank you ever so much for your advice! Lots of love to you too😘

It’ll be worth it to have that alone time with your baby and husband especially while recovering. You don’t want anyone around postpartum who gives you stress and cross boundaries. I let my in-laws around pushing boundaries and I regret it so much as I felt everything was robbed from me because they made me feel like crap and took my baby (she was a NICU baby so I wanted extra time with her and wanted her safe and they crossed so many boundaries on her health). I was able to manage my baby better when I just had my husband and I had to learn how to do everything while she was hooked to an oxygen tank and heart monitor. It’s so much easier to learn when you aren’t pressured or stressed

You will be able to manage with just you and your husband! Me and my partner have never had help with our parents like you see with some people having grandparents that will come over and stay the night to help with baby etc. And we’ve always managed. You won’t want people acting like that around you when you’ve just given birth x

@Katie thanks a mill for this. Lots of love xxx

@Kaitlyn that is fantastic to hear, thank you for this message! x

Wow that is incredibly insensitive of them! Sorry you had that experience. I just wanted to say that it’s totally fine for you to feel this. But it’s not ok for others to make out you are being overly sensitive because of the pregnancy. Insulting someone’s appearance & laughing in their face is never ok. If fact it’s quite nasty. You have quite a bit of time to prep yourself to cope without them. Unfortunately opinions and boundary pushing come more when you start to rely on people. They feel an entitlement. You can do this! I would plan without them in mind & maybe widen your circle (for example an NCT group & pre natal classes are great for support outside the family)

@Yolande great idea Yolande. I will definitely try that xx thank you for your advice

If your family can’t be respectful to you then they don’t deserve to have a relationship with your baby and it isn’t and won’t be acceptable to show that sort of behaviour to your child as they grow up, your pregnant and your bound to get “chubbier” as your body has a lot of water retention when you are having a baby, ignore what they say and put you and your child first, you and your husband will be able to give baby everything he/she needs and if you are struggling then you ask them for help but if your perfectly capable of doing it all between you and your husband then who are they to dictate what you and your husband decide to do xx

@Chloe thank you so much Chloe. I feel so supported thanks to all these messages. Lots of love xx