Waiting for the heart to stop

I have a two-year-old, wonderful, beautiful daughter. This year I’ve had two miscarriages and I’m currently pregnant. I should be showing at eight weeks four days, however, my ultrasound shows as six weeks one day. The baby’s heart rate was only 83 bpm, basically half of what it should be. I was told that they can’t give me a diagnosis of a miscarriage since their heart is still beating. But essentially told me this is the beginning of the end. I’m having a hard time processing the fact that my baby is still alive and fighting as best they can. All while knowing that they are slowly dying. I had my first blood test today and will go back in a couple days to have it taken again to check my hormone levels. And in a week I will have another ultrasound. I’m having a hard time processing it all. Has anyone else ever been told they are having a miscarriage before they actually had their miscarriage? My first two, we found out after their heart had stopped beating, so knowing that baby is still alive and needing to prep to say goodbye is mind-boggling.

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I’m so very sorry. I haven’t gone through that heartbreak but I have had a miscarriage. I knew I was miscarrying when I went in and they said the baby hadn’t grown much since my other ultrasound which was 3-4 earlier. I don’t want to say to keep your hopes up but babies do some miraculous things. But if this pregnancy does end in miscarriage then if it were me, I would try to focus on the thought of something was very unhealthy with the baby and this was what was best for the baby. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. I had a similar experience - bleeding started at 6 weeks so went to early pregnancy unit for a scan at 7 weeks there was a slow heartbeat, at 8 weeks it had stopped. I was given options at 8 weeks but only the next day I lost the baby. I wrote a letter to my baby, we gave them a name, my husband and I bought forget-me-not flowers and booked a hotel for the night so we could grieve in peace. Our rainbow baby was born three months early, the month our Robin should have been due.

I’m so sorry to read this! It’s so heartbreaking. I hope that you have access to the support you need right now.

I’m so sorry they told you that. I wouldn’t give up hope yet though. Even though you say 8 weeks, you could have ovulated later and actually be 6 weeks. Secondly, the heart starts to beat anywhere between 5 weeks 4 days to 6 weeks 2 days so it being 83 could just mean it JUST started beating. A low heart rate at that size is normal.. I’d wait for your next scan and blood work!

@Tristana they kept asking if I was sure on the dates. We had sex once, so I know when we conceived. And I was told that even if I was only six weeks along, the heart rate is still too low. I’m praying for a miracle but also feel naive to do so.

@Kate that what we did for our other two. The doctors were surprised that I’ve had no bleeding or cramping.

@Brittney but even just having sex once, you don’t conceive at that time. It can be at a week before conception actually happens and then even implantation doesn’t happen that day either. There’s really no way to exactly know the moment it happened so don’t lose hope yet! And the heart rate.. I’m an US tech and I’ve seen it in the ER with a low heart rate super early and everything turned out to be a normal pregnancy, just early. I’m not trying to give you false hope, anything could happen but it could also be so early.. waiting is all you can do.

@Tristana I truly appreciate your encouragement!!! Thank you for allowing me space to have hope.

I’m sorry for what your going through. When I was pregnant I was told it wasn’t a viable pregnancy because the growth dropped more than 2 weeks. It made for a very stressful pregnancy but my son turned out fine!

@Brittney wow thats is pretty high actually ,mine was 840 when I misscarred at 7 -8 weeks ,71,000 is really good x

Wow that’s high. They did my first hcg and it was 45 a week later 800 two weeks later had a scan baby was there I’m 12 weeks Sunday babies do some amazing things. I really hope everything works out for you xxx

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