Mother-in-law "never got help from her husband"

Lmao you should have been like “I’m not lucky, sounds like you were unfortunate”

No offense, but it sounds like all your MIL is doing is excusing bad behavior from her son. Like if one of my sons was doing that I’d definitely be like what the? I didn’t raise you like that! So you are not wrong at all in expecting help from your husband. It should be a team effort, whether that’s helping with the baby or supporting you (feeding you, making sure you have water, etc…) so you can take care of the baby. Just take things one thing at a time, and always feel free to put baby in a safe space and step away and take a breathe when things are overwhelming. It’ll make a big difference.

Glad to hear im not the only one who thinks husbands should help. I will admit I may have ugly cried to get my point across but he's made some improvement in his effort to help.

No - do not feel bad. You are not only deserving of support - but owed it. You should be healing and surviving now while your partner does heavy lifting… sorry not sorry.

MIL was wrong. Husbands are partners in parenthood. Though I think it will always be ill received when venting to the inlaws. I didn't appreciate it coming from my SIL. It's cause a lot of discord, it can just become a slippery slope. Those messages should go elsewhere if you want to keep his family out of having an opinion in your relationship.

It’s true that in the past men were absent but this new generation of dads are much better prob bc of more education. Best advice to get your husband involved is to help him feel equipped. Teach him the skills he needs to be useful when he’s around. Don’t turn to your in-laws for support , they are obv no help. This is your marriage , your family , you have the right to have certain expectations from your partner. I’ve suffered from pp rage as well , nervous about it possibly popping up during this upcoming pp. sorry to hear your dealing with that , be gentle with yourself and give yourself all the space and grace you need to protect yourself from triggers.