How to nip it in the bud 🌱🤏🏻
FTM due May 2025 👋🏻 and for years I have watched my MIL boss my 2x BIL and their wives about how to parent their children. Examples include, “don’t change her nappy there, change her upstairs”, “you should have let her nap here earlier, if she sleeps in the car home she’ll never sleep tonight”, “just take him a walk in the buggy outside til he calms down”… she also makes scathing comments about carbon footprints any time the kids are given avocados (I mean, I understand where she’s coming from, but it’s EVERY time… 🥑🙅‍♀️)
She’s a “fixer” who seems to need to be in control all the time. I’m dreading the thought of having to put up with her nagging once our LO is born. So I’d like to have some ideas in my back pocket of ways to shut this behaviour down from the beginning - honestly I think our relationship will be better for it in the long run!
Sounds like my mother in law. Set ground rules and make sure your husband agrees. Be sure to enforce them even if she doesn’t like it. Stand up for yourself be sure to speak up. Over the 10 years me and my husband have been together my mil has slowly learned her place and that I don’t need or appreciate her off comments. (It does help she lives 500 miles away). If she doesn’t listen, limit contact until she does.