Toddler touching down - please help no judgement

Hi mamas, please no judging but I’m extremely worried about my toddler. I’ve just went to change her nappy tonight before bed and as I was half way there I saw a spider on the wall, so I went grabbed tissue to kill it before my toddler sees it and screams. In the meantime I had left my LG with the fresh nappy open but when I turned around she was moving her hands from her privates and had put her hands in her mouth. I have never never seen her do this before, but there are the odd occasions were she will put her hands down there and I was told previously that is because they are curious about their body parts. I asked her why did she do it and she didn’t answer, I proceeded and asked has anybody touched you down there , she said yes mama (me) but I only do it when i change her nappy or give her a shower. I then asked does anybody else she said yes dada and nana. I said anybody else touches you down there and she said school. She goes nursery twice a week. My heart sank at this moment but then I told myself it’s probably because they change her nappy. I asked how and who does she said “in bathroom they hit”. I don’t understand what that even means so I asked her few times and she just repeated the same thing and I asked who does, and she said her main teachers. So i’m sitting here telling myself they probably change her nappy in the bathroom hence why she said that, but I’m really worried? I even asked if anyone else cousins or uncles did and she said no. Now I do leave her to watch kids videos on youtube when i’m doing house work or cooking and I keep seeing moms on tiktok warning about some videos being inappropriate and it got me wondering if she has come across something like this and I just didn’t pay attention? Please no judgement
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Girl u would know if she been touched there are signs , mostly a rash or infection

Skin peeling

She may be curious of her body parts

Cause my son who was 8 months use to do it when i changed his diaper

He doesnt do it anymore he is 9 months now

And what kind of kid videos ?

She’s a toddler, they all explore and play with their body parts. And the way you questioned her probably made her panic and just say stuff, toddlers do unfortunately sometimes say things that have happened but because they’re not yet able to explain things properly there’s sometimes details that don’t make sense. Obviously now she’s said it then I’d talk to the nursery. And in terms of videos do you have a YouTube kids account?

As they’ve said, it sounds like she’s just exploring. She didn’t say anything was hurting. Everyone she named are people who would be down there to clean her and logically in the bathroom. The hit part is concerning so ask, but I wouldn’t run off with it. And a toddler putting their hands in their mouth isn’t wild either. Seems concerning by the order of it all, but alone - neither act is abnormal. And on YouTube, you can go through the watch history to see what she’s been watching. I see inappropriate things appear, but it’s usually references to the devil which I’d prefer to go without at this age, but nothing sexual with any of the channels she watches. Also, try to opt more for YouTube kids instead of YouTube. More geared towards her and whatever age versus anything being eligible to pop up.

@Bree there are few channels i’ve seen on her history but mainly frozen clips or toys, some channel of a little girl playing and another one of a dad and daughter , so it was literally nothing. I watch her watch them as well I just got worried

@Lucy i’m worried if i bring it up i nursery they might take it the wrong way. She is so good there and was the only nursery she had felt comfortable in and settled in well compared to the one from before and they all seem very nice. And no she uses my youtube as i’ve seen many mum warn others of Youtube kids so i got worried

@Macdalia that what worried me, the order in which she did it unless she didn’t mean to idk. But she watches youtube near me or kids videos on her kids amazon tablet . I think i’ll just have to watch and see if it was just a one off

I mean if you believe that something serious has happened then what way they take it shouldn’t matter. I think YouTube kids is a better option that just YouTube. My son watched a video on my YouTube that I put on and then the video that followed was all the cartoon characters that he loved but they were swearing. Ive never seen that on YouTube kids.

Again, I’d ask if you’re concerned. But if it’s mainly the order, then I wouldn’t be too stuck if they don’t report anything back or seem suspicious. Babies and toddlers put their hands in their mouths all the time. Toddlers/babies start touching private parts as they’re exploring and learning their bodies. But you can start to use this time to teach her about her body and that no one should be down there as she potty trains and what not.

Hmmmm try asking her what games do you play at school

Start asking her what did u do at daycare or school or whatver it is

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It can be very normal for babies and toddlers to touch/play with that area especially during nappy change if your concerned bring it up with nursery no harm done if there doing nothing wrong

Also is she actually understanding what you mean/ asking and talking about

It might be normal. But you should ask her when she say hit if it’s like when mama changes your nappy. She probably doesn’t understand the question.

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