Going straight back to soft foods 😢 I'm struggling
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There is also lots of videos to show you the difference between gagging and choking. And trying new foods your little one might Gag. X
You're not a terrible mother! We are all just doing our best and NOTHING can prepare you for how hard parenting is 😮💨 Agree with Amey that you need to try and take the pressure off, lots of babies from past generations were spoon fed traditional 'baby food' and go on to eat perfectly normal diets as adults. I think it's more important that meal times are as relaxed and enjoyable as possible for both of you, so your LO develops a positive association with food. I know it's easier said than done as I get stressed by it too (more so because my boy just isn't a great eater and throws his food everywhere so the whole process just seems so loooong for minimal food to actually be consumed). It does sound like your baby was probably gagging rather than actually choking, which is a normal reflex in babies and is actually how they learn to manage different textures. It might also be worth having a chat with your health visitors to see if they can offer any advice x
Easier said than done, as we all know, but try to show as little panic as possible. As babies are so clever, they definitely feed off our emotions, especially as their mums 🥹 We have had our moments with gagging and choking. It happens, and it doesn't mean you're a bad mum! You care and want the best for your little one, that makes you the best mum. Remember 'loud and red, let them go ahead; silent and blue they need help from you'. If it was the former, it was probably gagging and the reflex will take over and get the food out. Make sure to praise them when this happens 💕 I found that looking into what to do if choking occurs really gave me more confidence should I ever need to act quickly, so maybe something to consider. Also don't worry about going back to mashed food too much. We are kinda doing the same due to illness and teething putting her off food.
My advice is just keep mixing it up textures-wise. It took us a good few months to get to grips somewhat with BLW. Mine does BLW most of the time, but again with illness and teething recently she's been a bit fussy so if I need her to finish off her food I will spoon feed her. Just gotta do what you gotta do sometimes x
You’re not alone! I’m the most paranoid solid feeding mother on this planet. Even when I’m making his food I feel physically sick and god forbid if a family member or his own father tries to pop something into his mouth without me checking it first. I go mental! I can feel myself burning up just thinking about it. I have noticed over the last 2 weeks it’s got a little better especially with tuna sandwiches and egg mayo sandwiches. Last night he even had beef stroganoff!! Just keep trying and only give your baby food that you feel comfortable giving him, what’s the point in getting stressed out when there are lots of squigy foods he can eat and enjoy Really hope you start to feel better soon. I know how you feel 💕
Don’t be silly. Just remember if your baby is crying then they can breath. Blw isn’t for everyone look at it this way you never met an adult that can’t eat solids because their mothers didn’t do blw. Try take the pressure if your self do what you feel confiable with and maybe look up some foods that are less likely to choke with and build it up slowly. Also have you maybe considered doing a short first aid course so you know what to do if bsby is chocking, this might ease your anxiety but don’t be so hard on yourself.