Desperate for some help please
How do you deal with meltdowns that just never end?!
I am at my wits end.
My son is 5 and I am 35 weeks pregnant and he has just reached a whole new level over the past few weeks.
I’m constantly having shit thrown at me, being spit at, punched, kicked and absolutely nothing calms him down.
He’s getting worse at school too and I just don’t know what to do.
My house is being destroyed and I’m genuinely becoming more and more scared for my baby’s well being when he arrives.
We’ve tried so many methods and everything just gets him worse. He thinks everything is funny. I’m sat here in absolute bits, with spit all over me, cuts bruises and whatnot and he just thinks it’s some game.
First of all, you're in an awful situation and I can see how scary it must be with a newborn coming soon. My oldest was 5 when his 1 year old brother moved in and we had a year of huge meltdowns and violence but the little brother was never the target it was always at us (mostly me). Second thing, the laughing, it's another form of emotional disregulation. The uncomfortable and overwhelming feelings are just coming out in strange ways, he's not actually finding it fun. Last thing, here's a video we found really helpful. There's lots out there about prevention and building the regulation skills but we needed something practical in the short term and this had things that got us thinking about how to set our home up ready to cope with violence. https://youtu.be/_Ae2yi6VNCw?si=LYjl-PwoQQRQtVOP