My heart breaks because I had to have an abortion for a second child that could've been here
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Hey Mama, I’m so sorry this happened to you and that you felt like abortion was your only option. I hope you are able to heal and to grieve your baby in a healthy way. If you ever find yourself in a situation like this again - please know there are many resources available to you for free. Let Them Live is a nonprofit that will financially and emotionally help you be able to keep your baby no matter the circumstances. standingwithyou.org has a search bar where you can find your closest pregnancy resource center via zip code. There are also several programs to help you heal from abortion. I attached a link if you scroll down for abortion recovery programs and support groups. https://www.standingwithyou.org/resources-reproductive-grief/#afterabortion
I think given your circumstances you did the right thing. I would say knowing all you know now that it’s probably best to end that relationship, not sleep with him ever again, and focus on building a better life for you and your child now. Don’t waste the energy or time on him when you have to take care of you and your baby. It’s sad for sure, having to abort, but the end result if you had kept the baby wouldn’t have been fair to your other child and would have made everyone’s life harder. In some areas, what he did could be seen as rape, as it was done intentionally and without your consent. And you shouldn’t have felt bad for that. Adoption is not always the best option as it’s a child that you may not want to give away and many “open adoptions” are not actually “open”. I hope you are able to heal from this and know that you did what you thought was best for you and your child
@Wendi yes i did right thank you. I didn't want to get pregnant right away after I just gave birth my little one needs my attention and to eat. I'm mad I'll never give him another chance he guilt tripped me for not having sex with him and still impregnated me expecting me to carry it like no. I told him I wasn't ready to have a second child and when we argue he dismisses my feelings and hang up or walks out on me I don't want another child from him he has heart condition too my first has that and I didn't know he had that until his cousin told me about them having heart issues
Leave this man. He is abusing you. Also, stand up for yourself and your child. No is a complete sentence.
I told him I wasn't ready and he didn't care he never checked on his child either for the past few days I ment second child from me