Toddler who throws and hits

I feel like it should be more on you as the parent to protect the older toddler and maybe use a baby gate or separate them somehow if the youngest is hitting instead of advising them to run away or hit back. The younger one needs to learn also they can’t have the privilege of playing or cuddling with mom or sis/brother/dog etc if they aren’t being gentle. So if they can be physically removed, and ignore the behavior I feel like if that’s done consistently it will work idk

@Autumn oh I do protect both kids, but if I am making lunch or something and they are a several feet from me when this starts that's when I tell the other one to move away but when the other follows and corners the other that's where I don't know what to encourage. I obviously drop what I am doing to intervene but wondering what others do. Like I said I do timeouts, stop them from the throwing and hitting, talk to them, etc every time but nothing helps. I know it's just a phase but it's lasting a while.

Oh yeah I get that, I had my two daughters very close in age so there was a lot of grappling for a while lol

I personally speak sternly to them and tell them, "we RESPECT each other, we don't hit unless it is to defend one's self" While I don't want them hitting each other or causing malice to others, I also don't want them to let other kids push them around either.

I have twins and I’ve definitely let them “duke it out” as a last resort. They’re brothers and I’m not always going to be there to mediate for them. Conflict resolution is a learned skill and sometimes they learn by doing.

Now that my kids are older and way too big for me to handle ehhh if I can’t get them to stop I let them have at it until one decides to walk away…

My drug addict mom tells me to get off my a** and separate them but as teens when I grab one the other one runs up and swings and honestly not much I can do. Not two people I’ll stand in between and they’ll push their way around and it starts all over againzzzx