How do you make friends?

I have been feeling extra discouraged lately. I am always the last one to message and then get ghosted (or at least that's what it feels like). I know motherhood is busy but I don't want to be the only one messaging first or bothering people who don't want to talk to me by sending the last and first message (even if they are weeks apart). Idk what to do. I don't know if I'm bad at small talk or what. I'm also having drama/stress in my family work life so that doesn't help my anxiety of not having friends either 😕