Overwhelmed, clingy toddler, and a mess.
Please don't judge as the last couple months have been really rough...
I'm a single mom, ftm, and a working mom. In October I had major surgery, then got sick, then got sick again with pneumonia. I still went to work while sick and after my surgery.
My apartment is a mess. I am so overwhelmed I have no idea where to start. Our dryer broke and I have to leave the house to do laundry at my parents house as my coughing fits have turned into peed pants and underwear. My kitchen is a disaster as I can't keep up with my dishes. I'm so tired I miss garbage and recycling days. Someone donated toys, and I haven't had a chance to put them away or even sort them to my daughter's age range.
I am so tired, which we found out is a result from my surgery. I can't keep up with life. I can't even bring myself to properly wrap my daughter's gifts. I even had to buy a deaf alarm clock just to wake up in the morning from all of this.
I finally asked my babysitter if she could help me out if I paid her to help clean my place. I can't do this on my own anymore. But no way am I going to get back together with my abusive ex.
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Be proud of yourself for getting you and your daughter out of an abusive situation with your ex. You’re standing on your own two feet even if your kitchen is a disaster! Things will get easier.
@Jayden I'm in Ontario, so hopefully I can get some help. I'm thankful daycare is fully covered and my sister helps with dinners. But everything is at a loss 😔
Honestly some for some of this you’ll just have to buckle up and do what you can. Definitely look into programs and ask for help. But you CAN do this. Messes can be cleaned, toys can be organized, gifts can be wrapped. Make a list and start taking steps to achieve it. Put on your fave music or podcast and clean your kitchen. You’ll feel accomplished and it will help you keep going!
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You have a lot going on! Give yourself some grace. It’s great that you asked your babysitter for help. That is a great starting point. Where do live? I’m in Alberta and I have heard about programs where people can come in and help you. Like volunteer retired people will come help you clean or cook. I don’t have specific details but my friend had twins and the public health nurse was giving her lots of information about programs like this if she needed help. So if you are in Alberta you could try to contact public health or call 211 to see if they can direct you to any other resources. If you don’t feel comfortable reaching out to programs what I would do is just write a brain dump list of the tasks you need to accomplish. Do what you can and ask for help from your babysitter or parents, you’ll get satisfaction from crossing items off of the list. Even an hour a day can make a big difference!