One and done?

Seeing a few posts about Baby number 2, anyone else in the one and done club? The idea of going through it all again fills me with anxiety and dread rather than excitement so while I mourn the idea of a sibling for my baby, I would rather be a halfway decent mum to one than a substandard mum to two. I have been lucky and had a relatively easy time of it with my baby, good sleeper, no colic, no major hurdles and I still feel the same. My partner is less than hands on too so that pretty much seals the deal. Anyone else in the same boat, and how do you reconcile the guilt of not having a sibling for your baby? (Should also mention mine doesn't have any cousins in the UK currently either so feel like no family their age)

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I’m with you. I had a straight forward pregnancy and good birth. Baby has been pretty great and I sort of think why jinx it? I would need to move pretty quickly to have baby #2 because of my age and that’s not really appealing to me right now as I am really enjoying my daughter. We are financially comfortable and have a nice life so I sort of think: why rock the boat? We are already so blessed with one, I’m at peace with leaving things that way

@Claire money and age are massive factors too! Being crippled with childcare fees means likely having to wait til mine gets to school, at which point I would be over 40

I've always known if I did have children I'd be one and done and I'm very happy with that decision and now that we've had our little boy we're good with that. I had 9 siblings and it doesn't always guarantee closeness/a friend for life as some people say so I'm good knowing that my little boy will have as much as we can give him, not have to share our time or love either.

I feel the same as Sophie

We’re definitely one and done - neither of us could go through this again (not an easy baby though lol) - we just feel complete now and are trying not to dwell on it too much xx

Yep I'm a one and done mama too. Whilst the thought of my boy never having a sibling hurts my dearly, I don't think i could go through with it. I had a rather smooth pregnancy until 32 weeks when baby had slow growth. As a newborn my boy was brilliant and he still is to this day (touch wood), just financially I can't afford another sadly and I'd rather give my boy my absolute all than half.

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