Is my anger righteous?

I'll try to keep this brief. As a young teen, I was raped by the man I was dating at the time. It was almost 15 years ago at this point. I didn't tell anyone until 5 years later, and that was my now husband. To this day, not many people in my life know about it. My husband and I are in therapy for some intimacy issues we've been having the last couple years, which I believe are linked to that traumatic event. My therapist asked me to tell the story to her, and when I did it brought up the anger, shame, and fear I felt all those years ago. I thought I had managed to forgive him for his horrendous act against me, but in telling the therapist the story, it hit me that I hadn't. She told me that my anger was righteous because I was violated at such a young age, and that his act is still causing me troubles today. I told her that I always considered anger to be a bad and unchristian emotion. She told me I should research righteous anger within the Bible. But so far all I've found is a bunch of verses saying that we should be slow to anger, or anger will be a downfall. I don't know how to process all of this, and would like some help. If you read this far, I appreciate it 💙

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I think it is natural to feel that way especially if it isn't something you think about or have talked through with your husband. For me, it was a big part of my life and I wanted everyone to know for the longest time because I felt the injustice. But I think it is true that we shouldn't hang on to things even horrible things like that. For me, i saw the pain through my husband's eyes and it made me feel seen in a way I guess I was searching for. I think I just wanted to be believed and I am blessed that I have a husband that helped me get through that feeling. (I was also r*ped as a teen if that wasn't apparent from my response)

I understand where your anger is coming from, and I can relate. I was not raped, but I was molested at a very young age. I am very spiritual, and I thought I had forgotten about this person until recently when he requested for my friendship on Facebook. From nowhere , the anger in me came out, and I was just cursing the person. My husband is aware of it, but I didn't make it to look like a big thing. Sometimes, the anger is inevitable

The Bible says in Ephesians 4:26 (NKJV) “”Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,” Anger by itself isn’t a sin, what makes is a sin is what you do based on anger. God has a righteous anger or indignation at injustices. This is where the term comes from. So not all anger is bad. It’s when your anger is motivated by the things of the flesh or motivating you to sin that it becomes sin.

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