@Ella my mother in law suggested that we should stay at hers for a few days so it freshens his mind as he has siblings he has laughs with. He also stayed there for a few nights. But I don’t know how comfortable I am with this. Said we can stay for one night but she’s pressurising me to stay for a week. I feel like this might be more stressful as the routine and everything will change
Ahh tricky. But it would be good for the kids to spend that time with their dad. Does MIL really have room for everyone to stay comfortably? Can you go over, and see how you go? If it's really stressful, leave on day 2, but if it's okay, stay a few nights?
You've posted a lot. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. You need to focus on YOU and the kids and what you CAN control. Take things one day at a time. Be kind to yourself and the kids.