I. WANT. TO.CRY

Everytime I even have a thought of doing something with my daughter my husband says it’s not fair to his oldest . His oldest that is supposed to be with us every other year for the holidays but he says it’s not fair to her so he lets her split the holidays . Problem is he then expects everyone to accommodate as if there’s no other kids in the family or that people should accommodate no matter what . Yes I know sd lives her life at her moms so my daughter shouldn’t miss out on days leading up to Xmas etc . I feel Iike I’m constantly arguing with a brick wall . I want it to work . I’m trying to be patience and compromise but he makes it seem like I’m just being an asshole because I don’t feel like our daughter should have to wait until after Christmas to see Christmas lights etc.

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I’d start doing stuff with your daughter with or without him it isn’t fair on your daughter

@Trinity I’m trying . It’s always an argument . And it’s hard when my daughter is a daddy’s girl so she’s always asking why daddy isn’t coming or is crying for him . She would literally not do anything or wait on him to get his attitude right which isn’t often . It makes me sad and I question if I’m in the wrong by continuously still trying to do these things for my daughter . Or is she just completely happy that mom and dad are together . Idk I feel like it’s not the childhood I dreamed of giving to my child.

I feel like you still should continue and start phrasing going out together as daughter and mommy bonding time so maybe she won’t cry and maybe he will get over it and start doing stuff with you both.

I never thought of saying it like that . Thank you ill try that

Of course I really hope it helps I’m sorry you’re going through this! It’s frustrating but your daughter deserves to not miss out on things