Cut off!

AITA? Fiancé and I have some (once) close friends who have previously done a lot for us and our LG.
As time has gone on it’s become obvious that certain ‘bad vibes’ from our friends are sensed by our baby, as her usual happy self, even around strangers, results in inconsolable screaming whenever she’s around them.
I told fiancé I’ve noticed a pattern and didn’t want to have our LG around them anymore making her upset.
I also have felt really disrespected by one of them, who I thought was a girly pal of mine, but will go behind my back and message fiancé about almost anything and everything we’re discussing between the 2 of us. It could be something as simple as a plan to go out shopping together, and she’ll disregard what I’ve said and almost ‘check’ plans are cool with him even if he isn’t involved. This is just a nutshell but you get the gist.
She’ll go behind my back a lot if I’ve said one thing, in order to get a different answer from my fiancé, like a child playing parents against eachother.

So AITA for cutting them off and asking fiancé to do the same, as I do NOT see them as friends, nor safe around our baby.

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As I'm reading, and this could just be me but I have to ask—this friend who also messages your fiance, is she someone that was his friend first? If not, have they grown their relationship into something you might not be aware of? It just seems so strange that a female friend of mine would message my fiance to clarify something I've told her or ask him if he's cool with plans I have with her. Also is it just one or multiple?

From your post your baby isn't the only one that's not safe around her. I'm sorry you're going through this.

yes they were his friends before they were mine. They are a married couple he used to go to school with and he and them got back in touch with one another a few years ago (after fiancé and I had been together a number of years).

Ahhh, ya I would trust your gut and your babies too... something doesn't sound right here. Unless your husband has asked them to message him to confirm plans, times and dates; it all seems odd.

Sounds very fishy

The friend needs to go. That's mad disrespectful. If someone did that crap to her, she would be ready to set the world on fire! I can't stand a messy and immature "friend." Absolutely confront her, let her know why you're cutting her off, and proceed with doing so.

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