Advice

Why does this sound like my baby daddy? But yea don’t waste your time girl if he wanted to he would remember that no man is too busy for anyone he’s interested in.

@Georgia that’s men 🙄but no seriously guy would ever!

Not a real man anyway a boy yes

I wouldn’t even be stressing about this, you’ve just met him and it’s only been 24 hours since you last spoke, being this full on so soon isn’t attractive and would put some people off even if they were interested to begin with, leave him be and if you done hear from him for a few days maybe give him a message and if you don’t hear back then just move on, plenty more fish in the sea

Going to a hotel even just to hang after a first date is a red flag for a serious relationship. And if you didn’t sleep with him he probably expected you to cuz the hotel is implying that so if you didn’t he is gonna be mad you didn’t put out… but on the other hand if you did sleep with him then he probably moved on cuz he got what he wanted… either way that’s why I say a hotel after 1 date is the red flag. Time to cut losses and move on.

@Emma im not even going to bother to send another message honestly. if he doesn’t respond then oh well ill let it be !

@Lyss very true, we didn’t do anything but maybe that’s what he wanted to do. idk i didn’t really think anything of it since we both don’t have our own place

Yeah I mean I’ve seen videos of men talking about how coffee dates are getting to know you dates and getting dinner they think we owe them sex… they are entitled so the hotel definitely had him thinking he was getting it. Like why couldn’t he plan a nice activity to do together even just go to the movies… instead he didn’t even care to put effort into a second date he just got a room expecting things… you definitely better off without him

I honestly think that maybe he was wanting sex beacsue after it didn't happen he lost interest, and it could have happened other way too, I wouldn't have been messaging him.so intensly after a day of meeting someone, so what if he doesn't message all the time, you guys aren't together and even if you were its be super fat to.get into a relationship after meeting once or twice..you prob scared him off and he was trying to.be polite

@Kat maybe, but i was taking things slow he was the one rushing it. either way i feel like communication is a big thing before and during dating and if you don’t see yourself with that person it should be let known

A guy will always be nice or whatever you need him to be to get what he wants. Moving forward, try having your needs be louder than assuming something. If it's sex then it's sex. If you're going on dates to be in a relationship with someone or just getting to know them. Going to a motel right after a date isn't a good sign. It simply means let's have some fun! If he wanted to hang out or get to know you, he could've taken you to a park or a nice walk, sitting in the car in talk.. The basics are not a motel!

Idk why it’s not obvious to you, but it’s very obvious to me what happened. Men don’t just bring girls to hotels just to do nothing lol. He could have literally asked you out for a second date, but instead took you to a hotel with the intention have sex. Obviously when it didn’t happen, he lost interest. Just cut him off and move on. Some men suck at communicating and are very immature.

This really pisses me off about men if you’re not interested anymore grow a backbone and tell us! Instead of us hanging around and waiting

This reminds me when I was in uni and got to know a guy and eventually went out with him. (I've always talked to any guy interested in me for a long while before accepting that 1st date now that I think back!!) I was so innocent. He had a car and he took me to a dinner then late movie date that was great. But so far out from where I was living and I didn't think anything. Well at midnight after the late movie is when I realised he was getting upset and impatient w me. Then found out he wanted sex and I corrected him no way and he said well I've spent money on you sooooo .... I got mad and he threatened to leave me there since he was my ride ... and he did !!!! Lucky I had cab money and had a lovely mama bear cab driver who told me never to let myself get in that situation again because men doesn't matter the age if they equate time and money to sex then the woman is doomed. I always imagine if we had gotten back to the car ... he tried apologising in big ways but I cancelled him.

Next time talk talk talk to someone and suss them out. If they're impatient you'll hear it and you don't even have to accept the 1st date. And avoid being alone with strangers. Just imagine the what ifs in that hotel situation because I also believe he just wanted sex that's why he zoned out. Imagine if he said idc. But enjoy dating abd meeying people abd going outtt 🤣🤣 it's my favourite hobby. I love it. And miss it 🤣🤣🤣

MOVE ON… quickly. He does not have to tell you he is not interested because he is showing you! Also, do not expect a confirmation from a man you barely know. Take care of yourself and be around those that want to be around you! If you must ask someone “Are you still interested”….. chances are that things are occurring to make you feel that way! Don’t allow anyone to waste your time! NEXT!