Controversial opinion 😅

I mean childless people’s only opinion they should be sharing is that they personally don’t want a child. LMFAOOO it’s really truly always best to keep your mouth shut when you’ve got no real experience or knowledge about any given topic. If the stance is that you don’t want kids, cool why imagine ever having any?

Having an opinion that you want a certain amount of children is totally fine but to then say “omg I could NEVER only have one kid” is just ignorant imo

I was SO sure I wanted to be one & done before ever getting pregnant, now here I am with 2 under 2 😅

@FairyMother 🦖🌸 that’s so beautiful that you had the opposite experience as me! I’m jealous 😂

Personally, i could never only have one. I grew up without any siblings, because my father died of cancer at 30 and my poor mum went into early menopause by 34, so by the time she met my step dad, it was too late for her to have any more children. She had 9 miscarriages, all ranging between 6-14 weeks gestation. It was very, very lonely growing up. The truth is, you never know what life will throw at you. But due to my personal experience, i was never going to only have one child. The vulnerability and isolation i felt at the age of only 3, was so horrible. I don't think it's ignorant. I think it depends on your experience and what life throws at you. Might sound mad to some, but i feel lucky to still be alive at 33, living in a safe environment with number three due in just over 2 weeks. I have had a drastically different life to my poor mum, for which i am very grateful for.

Thats not to say that having my first was not insanely hard. Its such a shock to the system and i agree that if you do not have children you should refrain from commenting on it. But saying it's ignorant to say you couldn't only have one child, isn't really fair. I imagine the people who say that sort of thing mean it from their perspective. They personally could never only have one. Maybe because they went through something similar to me, or maybe because they couldn't imagine life without a sibling and wouldn't not give their child one. You never really know what people are going through or what experience they have behind them. Likewise, they never truly know what you have been through. On a side note, i seem to be in the tiny minority of people who have more than one child, let alone 3! Which does surprise me, but most of my peers seem to only want/have one with a small amount saying "maybe one more" Life is very different to what it was 20 years ago. Its interesting.

I thought this was me but I am really debating on having another at all. It was a very difficult pregnancy and high risk and I've been struggling postpartum with very little support i can't imagine trying to do this with a toddler

@Kirsty sorry girl I think that’s great that you want multiple children. I was an only child until I was 10 and I didn’t have the same experience as you. But I do still feel like it’s ignorant to say you’ll NEVER only have one child because you’re basing that opinion with literally no knowledge or experience as to what it’s like to even just have one kid. And the instances where it bothers me the most is when I explain I cannot have another child for so many reasons and it’s met with “oh my I could NEVER only have one kid” and then they list all the reasons why it’s shitty of me to only have one kid 🥴

Wait, childless people actually say this? The only opinion I've ever heard is that they just don't want kids.

@Melissa I hear it constantly as someone with only one child